I want to get across the point that, if it’s true that sexual masochism and other behaviors have some underlying pleasure mechanism in common, then it’s remarkable that people demonize sexual masochism yet have no guilt about riding rollercoasters. I can’t do that without saying something like “Many people think masochism is evil.” There’s no way to get my idea across without using negative terms.
(The thought just occurred to me as I wrote this: Maybe the puritans (the stereotypical puritans, as opposed to the real ones, whom I am less familiar with) were just being consistent! Seeing sexual pleasure as immoral should lead to seeing dancing, card-playing, and many other things as immoral.)
If I had just written
“There are ordinary, socially-accepted behaviors that seem partly masochistic to me”,
that would be less neutral, as it would imply that I myself believed masochism was wrong.
I changed it. I think it’s weaker and less interesting this way, but it’s not in my advantage to repell people who have the expertise necessary for this conversation.
I want to get across the point that, if it’s true that sexual masochism and other behaviors have some underlying pleasure mechanism in common, then it’s remarkable that people demonize sexual masochism yet have no guilt about riding rollercoasters. I can’t do that without saying something like “Many people think masochism is evil.” There’s no way to get my idea across without using negative terms.
(The thought just occurred to me as I wrote this: Maybe the puritans (the stereotypical puritans, as opposed to the real ones, whom I am less familiar with) were just being consistent! Seeing sexual pleasure as immoral should lead to seeing dancing, card-playing, and many other things as immoral.)
If I had just written
“There are ordinary, socially-accepted behaviors that seem partly masochistic to me”,
that would be less neutral, as it would imply that I myself believed masochism was wrong.
I changed it. I think it’s weaker and less interesting this way, but it’s not in my advantage to repell people who have the expertise necessary for this conversation.