I think you’re underestimating human heterogeneity. The fix for this is to meet many different people, not engage in the kind of behavior you hate, and not bother hanging out with anyone who is put off after you learn that they were put off. You are not overwhelmingly likely to run out of people unless you live in the middle of nowhere. (Do you?)
I strongly second this. The people who are like you and who you would like most likely also hate the behaviors you don’t want to engage in. By not engaging in them, you may alienate the people you dislike, but you’ll make yourself more interesting to the people you actually do want to hang out with.
I don’t know how many people do the things I’m interested in. I joined a political science club, which seems good so far. I haven’t encountered any other social things I’m interested in though. I need to get more information about what activities are going on in my area, and I should probably expand my areas of interest also.
Yay LessWrong gives me momentary confidence and hope for my social future!
Most clubs go out of their way to get more recruits, in my experience. Jugglers and Capoeiristas both like to put on demos and hand out flyers. If there’s a student center where you are they probably have info on more clubs/hangouts you can go to also.
I strongly second this. The people who are like you and who you would like most likely also hate the behaviors you don’t want to engage in. By not engaging in them, you may alienate the people you dislike, but you’ll make yourself more interesting to the people you actually do want to hang out with.
I don’t know how many people do the things I’m interested in. I joined a political science club, which seems good so far. I haven’t encountered any other social things I’m interested in though. I need to get more information about what activities are going on in my area, and I should probably expand my areas of interest also.
Yay LessWrong gives me momentary confidence and hope for my social future!
Most clubs go out of their way to get more recruits, in my experience. Jugglers and Capoeiristas both like to put on demos and hand out flyers. If there’s a student center where you are they probably have info on more clubs/hangouts you can go to also.