Hmm, “slipperiness” sounds like a concept that’s more useful for observing my thoughts, rather than a way to think about my interactions with others.
I can tell when my mind is trying to gloss over something (e.g. when I don’t feel like specifying my entire chain of thought, then when I do try writing out a proper explanation, I start seeing loopholes and finding counter examples. Or when I dismiss something too quickly or for no reason.).
However, if I sense that someone’s not fully engaging with my points, how do I know if that’s because I’ve misunderstood them, or because they have knowledge they’re unable to articulate, or because there’s motivated reasoning at play etc.?
If I can’t tell, then I’d think it makes sense to treat it as a general case of communication failure instead of a specific case of “slipperiness”, i.e. I would try to understand what they are saying, find and ask about the apparent contradiction stated from their perspective, and observe their response.
If I do manage to identify it as one of the “slipperiness” cases, then different examples would require different approaches (e.g. disengage for manipulators, give space to calm down for emotional outbursts), so it wouldn’t make sense to treat them as a general “slipperiness” case?
Hmm, “slipperiness” sounds like a concept that’s more useful for observing my thoughts, rather than a way to think about my interactions with others.
I can tell when my mind is trying to gloss over something (e.g. when I don’t feel like specifying my entire chain of thought, then when I do try writing out a proper explanation, I start seeing loopholes and finding counter examples. Or when I dismiss something too quickly or for no reason.).
However, if I sense that someone’s not fully engaging with my points, how do I know if that’s because I’ve misunderstood them, or because they have knowledge they’re unable to articulate, or because there’s motivated reasoning at play etc.?
If I can’t tell, then I’d think it makes sense to treat it as a general case of communication failure instead of a specific case of “slipperiness”, i.e. I would try to understand what they are saying, find and ask about the apparent contradiction stated from their perspective, and observe their response.
If I do manage to identify it as one of the “slipperiness” cases, then different examples would require different approaches (e.g. disengage for manipulators, give space to calm down for emotional outbursts), so it wouldn’t make sense to treat them as a general “slipperiness” case?