The time I found LW is also the time I started (monogamously) dating my current partner who is also a rationalist. So I don’t have an experience of identifying as a rationalist and dating someone who is obviously not. Generally speaking, willful irrationality always frustrated me, but you need to make some compromises in order to have relationships.
Just wanted to comment that there is probably a difference between casually dating someone (if they are nice to be with and good in bed, why should I care about their ability to do Bayesian statistics) and organizing your life together with someone (so if they make irrational choices, you also bear the costs, possibly for years).
But looking at current answers, people seem mostly happy. Maybe rationality actually matters very little in our everyday lives, and no matter whether we read LessWrong or not, most of the time we are just following our social scripts. (Also, rationalists probably break up quickly with obviously irrational partners, so we are talking about those who are “not LW-rationalists, but also not obviously irrational”.)
The time I found LW is also the time I started (monogamously) dating my current partner who is also a rationalist. So I don’t have an experience of identifying as a rationalist and dating someone who is obviously not. Generally speaking, willful irrationality always frustrated me, but you need to make some compromises in order to have relationships.
Just wanted to comment that there is probably a difference between casually dating someone (if they are nice to be with and good in bed, why should I care about their ability to do Bayesian statistics) and organizing your life together with someone (so if they make irrational choices, you also bear the costs, possibly for years).
But looking at current answers, people seem mostly happy. Maybe rationality actually matters very little in our everyday lives, and no matter whether we read LessWrong or not, most of the time we are just following our social scripts. (Also, rationalists probably break up quickly with obviously irrational partners, so we are talking about those who are “not LW-rationalists, but also not obviously irrational”.)