Similar: I would find it useful to learn to speak slowly. I have to repeat myself a lot. The trouble is that I lose track of what I’m saying if I try to speak at a normal pace—I cannot seem to focus on speaking slowly and think of things to say at the same time.
(Edited the last few paragraphs to be more useful.)
I actually teach this to college students, to some degree. This is in the context of moderately scripted competitive speech, though.
The first basic trick is to consciously try to speak at half-speed. Once you’ve done that, halve your speed again. This will at least be close to the right speed.
Another trick is to tell friends or family to rudely (or politely) interrupt you if you speak too fast. This technique can also be helpful for eliminating um, uh, like, y’know, and similar disfluencies. I will write “SLOW” on a piece of paper and hold it up while a student is speaking, for example.
I admit I am surprised that you find speaking slowly more difficult in terms of keeping track of what you are saying. In almost all cases I encounter, people actually speak much more coherently when they speak slower. Either use the extra time to think of what to say, or insert a few judicious pauses for the same effect.
I would say there is a non-negligible chance that your rapid speech comes off as very clear to you, but not to observers. I know that when I get really engaged in an idea, I will often talk rapid-fire in a way that I think makes perfect sense, only to be stopped or slowed down by those around me, whom I’ve lost completely. My thought process feels a little more muddled when I have to slow down and think about exactly what I’m saying, but this is not because my communication is worse; it’s because I actually have to run a mental check to make sure I have a cogent point, rather than simply having a cogent point internally and saying whatever happens to feel right. Rapid-fire speech may create an illusion of transparency, but I’m not familiar with it actually helping people speak better.
Of course, YMMV and I could be totally wrong. But from the couple dozen or so students I’ve worked with, I never remember hearing a complaint that it is harder to think cogently while speaking slowly, only that it is difficult to remember to speak slowly.
In almost all cases I encounter, people actually speak much more coherently when they speak slower. Either use the extra time to think of what to say,
I don’t have much practice with public speaking, and I’ve tried this. To speak slowly while you think about what you’re going to say next takes practice. When I try this, I’m likely to confuse my thoughts with my current speech.
or insert a few judicious pauses for the same effect.
And this is what I’ll actually do: pause a bit between sentences, so that the audience can think about what I just said, and I can think about what to say next. Much easier than trying to talk and think at the same time.
To speak slowly while you think about what you’re going to say next takes practice.
There’s your problem right there. Optimally, public speaking should require very little on-the-spot thinking with respect to word choice. Depending on exactly how important (and predictable) the subject matter is, you should have a relatively set vocabulary and set of concepts you wish to discuss. There’s being competent at public speaking, and there’s being good at public speaking; this comment is about how to do the latter.
Before I get started: one general useful piece of advice: if giving a speech, your first few sentences matter far more than everything else, because people will decide whether or not they want to listen to you and will frame their understanding based on it.
If you’re giving a speech, you should have a moderately detailed bullet-point outline of what you’re going to say, and you should have thought (or actually spoken) your way through it in advance. (Often many, many times)(In some cases, and for some people, it’s ideal to have a verbatim script. But such circumstances tend to be relatively rare.) When you are actually speaking, you shouldn’t need to think too hard about your exact word choices. For relatively high-stakes public speaking, I will have thought the issue over so many times it takes some effort to prevent myself from saying what I’ve been thinking of saying at a hundred miles an hour. In other words, if you’re doing serious public speaking, you should be clear enough on what you want to say in advance that you can afford to devote a significant amount of your mental effort to your tone, movement about the stage, and speed of speech. This is admittedly advanced-level, but it’s how one excels.
When answering questions (as opposed to controlling exactly what you say) it doesn’t change much. 90% of questions can be easily anticipated. The remainder, you pause a bit before answering (or, if appropriate, reframe (honestly) to make easier to answer, “If I understand your question, you’re asking _”).
If you’ll forgive a rudimentary sports metaphor: when you’re throwing a ball, all you want to have to think about is where you want it to end up and how fast you want it to get there. Knowing how to position your arm and move your wrist and rotate your shoulder should be second-nature. You get them in line by practicing them before game day. Similarly, quality public looks off-the-cuff and conversational, but reflects a great deal of preparation and mental weight-lifting that prepare the speaker to communicate effectively.
[I’d certainly be willing to expand this into a top-level post if anyone thinks such would be useful. Public speaking skills are surprisingly rare; I believe this is because they require practice and people identify as being bad at them and avoid said practice.]
A useful additional trick is to practice a few generic units of body language, such as walking thoughtfully across a stage or making eye contact with several audience members, until it looks and feels natural to do them. You can drop them into the stream when you need to give yourself a longer break, and they will usually “read” as part of your presentation.
Recording yourself can help with this too. I recorded myself rehearsing for my first ever presentation, and found that when it seemed to me that I was speaking so slowly that I was sarcastically calling the audience stupid, when played back I was speaking at the right pace.
The right pace for whom? I hate it when other people talk slowly, too. I don’t think I’d calibrate properly if I aimed at making myself sound slow enough to myself.
I think it pays to be able to adjust the speed to the situation / audience. In my toastmasters groups I actually overdid the slowing after becoming aware of my too high speed.
I can only speak slowly if I have notes to work from. In normal conversation, including work discussions among 2-10 participants, I tend to rush to get my thoughts out, and that makes it hard for people to follow.
I’ve found that having a whiteboard helps a lot (a notepad on which I can scribble less so, but still better than nothing). Having to slow down enough to write main points down or sketch out some things seems to make me more comprehensible without losing my train of thought.
Similar: I would find it useful to learn to speak slowly. I have to repeat myself a lot. The trouble is that I lose track of what I’m saying if I try to speak at a normal pace—I cannot seem to focus on speaking slowly and think of things to say at the same time.
(Edited the last few paragraphs to be more useful.)
I actually teach this to college students, to some degree. This is in the context of moderately scripted competitive speech, though.
The first basic trick is to consciously try to speak at half-speed. Once you’ve done that, halve your speed again. This will at least be close to the right speed.
Another trick is to tell friends or family to rudely (or politely) interrupt you if you speak too fast. This technique can also be helpful for eliminating um, uh, like, y’know, and similar disfluencies. I will write “SLOW” on a piece of paper and hold it up while a student is speaking, for example.
I admit I am surprised that you find speaking slowly more difficult in terms of keeping track of what you are saying. In almost all cases I encounter, people actually speak much more coherently when they speak slower. Either use the extra time to think of what to say, or insert a few judicious pauses for the same effect.
I would say there is a non-negligible chance that your rapid speech comes off as very clear to you, but not to observers. I know that when I get really engaged in an idea, I will often talk rapid-fire in a way that I think makes perfect sense, only to be stopped or slowed down by those around me, whom I’ve lost completely. My thought process feels a little more muddled when I have to slow down and think about exactly what I’m saying, but this is not because my communication is worse; it’s because I actually have to run a mental check to make sure I have a cogent point, rather than simply having a cogent point internally and saying whatever happens to feel right. Rapid-fire speech may create an illusion of transparency, but I’m not familiar with it actually helping people speak better.
Of course, YMMV and I could be totally wrong. But from the couple dozen or so students I’ve worked with, I never remember hearing a complaint that it is harder to think cogently while speaking slowly, only that it is difficult to remember to speak slowly.
I don’t have much practice with public speaking, and I’ve tried this. To speak slowly while you think about what you’re going to say next takes practice. When I try this, I’m likely to confuse my thoughts with my current speech.
And this is what I’ll actually do: pause a bit between sentences, so that the audience can think about what I just said, and I can think about what to say next. Much easier than trying to talk and think at the same time.
There’s your problem right there. Optimally, public speaking should require very little on-the-spot thinking with respect to word choice. Depending on exactly how important (and predictable) the subject matter is, you should have a relatively set vocabulary and set of concepts you wish to discuss. There’s being competent at public speaking, and there’s being good at public speaking; this comment is about how to do the latter.
Before I get started: one general useful piece of advice: if giving a speech, your first few sentences matter far more than everything else, because people will decide whether or not they want to listen to you and will frame their understanding based on it.
If you’re giving a speech, you should have a moderately detailed bullet-point outline of what you’re going to say, and you should have thought (or actually spoken) your way through it in advance. (Often many, many times)(In some cases, and for some people, it’s ideal to have a verbatim script. But such circumstances tend to be relatively rare.) When you are actually speaking, you shouldn’t need to think too hard about your exact word choices. For relatively high-stakes public speaking, I will have thought the issue over so many times it takes some effort to prevent myself from saying what I’ve been thinking of saying at a hundred miles an hour. In other words, if you’re doing serious public speaking, you should be clear enough on what you want to say in advance that you can afford to devote a significant amount of your mental effort to your tone, movement about the stage, and speed of speech. This is admittedly advanced-level, but it’s how one excels.
When answering questions (as opposed to controlling exactly what you say) it doesn’t change much. 90% of questions can be easily anticipated. The remainder, you pause a bit before answering (or, if appropriate, reframe (honestly) to make easier to answer, “If I understand your question, you’re asking _”).
If you’ll forgive a rudimentary sports metaphor: when you’re throwing a ball, all you want to have to think about is where you want it to end up and how fast you want it to get there. Knowing how to position your arm and move your wrist and rotate your shoulder should be second-nature. You get them in line by practicing them before game day. Similarly, quality public looks off-the-cuff and conversational, but reflects a great deal of preparation and mental weight-lifting that prepare the speaker to communicate effectively.
[I’d certainly be willing to expand this into a top-level post if anyone thinks such would be useful. Public speaking skills are surprisingly rare; I believe this is because they require practice and people identify as being bad at them and avoid said practice.]
A useful additional trick is to practice a few generic units of body language, such as walking thoughtfully across a stage or making eye contact with several audience members, until it looks and feels natural to do them. You can drop them into the stream when you need to give yourself a longer break, and they will usually “read” as part of your presentation.
Recording yourself can help with this too. I recorded myself rehearsing for my first ever presentation, and found that when it seemed to me that I was speaking so slowly that I was sarcastically calling the audience stupid, when played back I was speaking at the right pace.
The right pace for whom? I hate it when other people talk slowly, too. I don’t think I’d calibrate properly if I aimed at making myself sound slow enough to myself.
I think it pays to be able to adjust the speed to the situation / audience. In my toastmasters groups I actually overdid the slowing after becoming aware of my too high speed.
I can only speak slowly if I have notes to work from. In normal conversation, including work discussions among 2-10 participants, I tend to rush to get my thoughts out, and that makes it hard for people to follow.
I’ve found that having a whiteboard helps a lot (a notepad on which I can scribble less so, but still better than nothing). Having to slow down enough to write main points down or sketch out some things seems to make me more comprehensible without losing my train of thought.