Actually these days I usually only dance once or twice a week, and sometimes even less than that.
If you try to handle your relationship with a woman on an abstract level instead of handling it on a emotional level
That’s not what I meant. I meant ‘trade’ as in, the partners jointly trying to fulfil each other’s wishes, rather than each one only thinking about themself. That doesn’t require suppressing emotions.
that significantly decreases your pool of potential mates.
So what? We’re talking about long-term relationships, not hooking up with as many distinct people as possible. See the “Mean and Variance” section of this.
A woman cares about how the interaction with you makes her feel.
You don’t say?
If all your interaction is on an abstract level she likely won’t feel the kind of emotions that she thinks are a requisite to starting a relationship with you.
If something makes us both happy, why should we give a damn how likely anyone else would be to like it? It’s not like there are sex auditors watching us or anything.
I’m not against open communication but you should always understand what you are communicating. Communicating your desires in a way that isn’t needy is not something that easy.
It also depends on who the listener is. My new girlfriend and I don’t seem to be having much trouble with that so far.
Actually these days I usually only dance once or twice a week, and sometimes even less than that.
That’s not what I meant. I meant ‘trade’ as in, the partners jointly trying to fulfil each other’s wishes, rather than each one only thinking about themself. That doesn’t require suppressing emotions.
So what? We’re talking about long-term relationships, not hooking up with as many distinct people as possible. See the “Mean and Variance” section of this.
You don’t say?
If something makes us both happy, why should we give a damn how likely anyone else would be to like it? It’s not like there are sex auditors watching us or anything.
It also depends on who the listener is. My new girlfriend and I don’t seem to be having much trouble with that so far.