Could we convince aAlice that she’s wrong; that private-calm speech is much closer to our true preferences than public-emotional speech is? The true picture is much more nuanced than that, of course, but if we can’t communicate the basic facts, we can forget about transmitting the nuances.
Publicly (and later, privately) state that some people are more authentic one on one, others in public.
Publicly (and later, privately) state that some people are more authentic one on one, others in public.