A lot of people say that it’s easy. They never say how to do it. It’s like they thought just saying “It’s easy” constituted a viable explanation of the method.
Also, I’m not really interested in casual sex, so if you’re right that serious relationships are much harder, that’s a problem.
Very brief reply:* It’s described as easy because you can learn it via observation and/or experimentation. Very basically you chat friendlily and escalate physical contact. A lot of this is context dependent, university students at clubs are probably far more interested in sex than random members of the population.
What are your specific issues? For a non-creepy guide try Clarisse Thorn’s “Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser”
*I’m travelling at the moment so can’t come up with a detailed response.
I guess I do have that mental block of not feeling attractive. At least, it may be a mental block; but how would I know if I’m just… not actually attractive? (This is a problem for me. I want hard data and I don’t see how to get it. Social norms explicitly forbid anyone telling you that you are ugly, even if you are.)
If it is a delusion, where does it come from? And how does one get rid of it?
A lot of people say that it’s easy. They never say how to do it. It’s like they thought just saying “It’s easy” constituted a viable explanation of the method.
Also, I’m not really interested in casual sex, so if you’re right that serious relationships are much harder, that’s a problem.
Very brief reply:* It’s described as easy because you can learn it via observation and/or experimentation. Very basically you chat friendlily and escalate physical contact. A lot of this is context dependent, university students at clubs are probably far more interested in sex than random members of the population.
What are your specific issues? For a non-creepy guide try Clarisse Thorn’s “Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser”
*I’m travelling at the moment so can’t come up with a detailed response.
I guess I do have that mental block of not feeling attractive. At least, it may be a mental block; but how would I know if I’m just… not actually attractive? (This is a problem for me. I want hard data and I don’t see how to get it. Social norms explicitly forbid anyone telling you that you are ugly, even if you are.)
If it is a delusion, where does it come from? And how does one get rid of it?