On that note, if someone knowledgeable could chime in? I know precisely zero poly people; I know of precisely zero poly people (excluding Bay Area because that’s not in my country). In fact I can confidently say I’ve never heard the lifestyle choice discussed, ever, where I live. Is it possible there simply aren’t any poly people in Melbourne? Or is there likely to be poly people somewhere, and they’ve kept it quiet for social reasons? If so, how does one go about non-invasively finding such people?
Their latest round of algorithm tweaks seems to have broken that. I now regularly match 95+% with people who are very insistent about only wanting single monogamous people.
Dan Savage has coined the term “monogamish” to describe relationships that appear monogamous on the surface, but actually aren’t, and speculates that there are a lot more of them than you’d think.
Check out “PolyVic”. They are rather prone to the “Geek Social Fallacies” but they would be a very good means of expanding one’s social circle with more poly folk. That tends to yield better results than going there looking to hook up, BTW.
(Lived in Melbourne all my life, and poly for over half of it. :) )
Fascinating, and well written. I can’t imagine ever being able to do this myself, but perhaps you might have convinced me it’s possible.
Of course, with the current complete lack of poly people I know, it may not be much of a problem.
On that note, if someone knowledgeable could chime in? I know precisely zero poly people; I know of precisely zero poly people (excluding Bay Area because that’s not in my country). In fact I can confidently say I’ve never heard the lifestyle choice discussed, ever, where I live. Is it possible there simply aren’t any poly people in Melbourne? Or is there likely to be poly people somewhere, and they’ve kept it quiet for social reasons? If so, how does one go about non-invasively finding such people?
OKCupid is pretty good. If you’re poly, and answer lots of match questions, you’ll soon find yourself only seeing poly/poly-friendly folk.
Their latest round of algorithm tweaks seems to have broken that. I now regularly match 95+% with people who are very insistent about only wanting single monogamous people.
I’ve met polyamorous people in Melbourne. In fact I’ve had relationships with a few of them. At once. ;)
I can say with some confidence that it is not possible that there are no poly people in Melbourne.
This is excellent news!
Dan Savage has coined the term “monogamish” to describe relationships that appear monogamous on the surface, but actually aren’t, and speculates that there are a lot more of them than you’d think.
Last question here: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=9125045 . NSFW language.
Check out “PolyVic”. They are rather prone to the “Geek Social Fallacies” but they would be a very good means of expanding one’s social circle with more poly folk. That tends to yield better results than going there looking to hook up, BTW.
(Lived in Melbourne all my life, and poly for over half of it. :) )
My fiancee is in Syndey, so there are definitely poly people in your country. I’d be willing to bet that Melbourne probably has an active poly scene.
googles
Yep: http://www.google.com/search?q=polyamory+melbourne