We were adorably earnest at 16. We also poked at our attitudes towards having children, and to materialism/wealth/possessions. I’m not recalling anything else that we discussed up-front like that. Maybe home ownership.
Results: we identified discrepancies in our desires for some of these things and flagged them as something to be extra careful in figuring out, and also identified some congruences which meant less conflict than expected, but we also flagged them explicitly as something to re-examine every five years.
We’ve been together 23 years and have toggled our position on one of the points; the others have (EDIT) not changed substantially.
Were there other social defaults you examined? If so, with what results?
We were adorably earnest at 16. We also poked at our attitudes towards having children, and to materialism/wealth/possessions. I’m not recalling anything else that we discussed up-front like that. Maybe home ownership.
Results: we identified discrepancies in our desires for some of these things and flagged them as something to be extra careful in figuring out, and also identified some congruences which meant less conflict than expected, but we also flagged them explicitly as something to re-examine every five years.
We’ve been together 23 years and have toggled our position on one of the points; the others have (EDIT) not changed substantially.
This is adorable.