The details of what my brain considers to be Rules and how it protests when they are broken or self-servingly altered are mildly interesting but irrelevant to this post.
Writing up a full description would be time-consuming and probably only appeal to a niche audience. If you have specific questions I’ll answer them for you.
I’m curious about the Rules. My wife and I have minor disagreements over things like parking neatly. I don’t think it matters if it doesn’t inconvenience anyone else (for example, early morning in a large parking lot); she disagrees. If that is an example of the kind of Rule you’re describing, maybe you can help me relate to that mode of thinking and avoid some future squabbles.
Anyway, congratulations on the hack and best of luck in your relationship.
That might or might not be the same kind of thing that my brain responds to. If it is:
It is easier to keep in mind a consistent Rule than to remember occurrently what justifies it and check for those conditions every time. If there is a really good reason to break a Rule, it will intrude itself upon your notice without explicit checking, so it’s safe to just go around following Rules until and unless that happens. Assuming you had a good reason to implement a Rule, it’s correspondingly bad to threaten its force (by ignoring it when it’s inconvenient, for example—inconvenience-related exceptions could have been built into the original rule if they were really worth the extra checking and if they are genuinely well-defined), and you should be highly suspicious of yourself if you start coming up with great reasons to change your Rules whenever they get inconvenient.
By the way, this footnote made me very curious.
Writing up a full description would be time-consuming and probably only appeal to a niche audience. If you have specific questions I’ll answer them for you.
I’m curious about the Rules. My wife and I have minor disagreements over things like parking neatly. I don’t think it matters if it doesn’t inconvenience anyone else (for example, early morning in a large parking lot); she disagrees. If that is an example of the kind of Rule you’re describing, maybe you can help me relate to that mode of thinking and avoid some future squabbles.
Anyway, congratulations on the hack and best of luck in your relationship.
That might or might not be the same kind of thing that my brain responds to. If it is:
It is easier to keep in mind a consistent Rule than to remember occurrently what justifies it and check for those conditions every time. If there is a really good reason to break a Rule, it will intrude itself upon your notice without explicit checking, so it’s safe to just go around following Rules until and unless that happens. Assuming you had a good reason to implement a Rule, it’s correspondingly bad to threaten its force (by ignoring it when it’s inconvenient, for example—inconvenience-related exceptions could have been built into the original rule if they were really worth the extra checking and if they are genuinely well-defined), and you should be highly suspicious of yourself if you start coming up with great reasons to change your Rules whenever they get inconvenient.