I personally find curiosity to be a great motivator for me, and a great way to maintain some detachment from what happens. But I don’t think it solves the underlying problem, that attachment causes suffering AND causes action.
My solution is to go with “acceptance of the past, action for the future”—I acknowledge the tension, and do not consider it a conundrum or a paradox. I think the somewhat trite “Serenity Prayer” is actually a pretty good guide:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
I have to admit that I don’t understand causality of personality traits, nor the variety of human experience, enough to call this a recommendation. I don’t know how someone could change themselves to be more like me, or if it’d work for them. So this isn’t really advice, just observation of self.
I personally find curiosity to be a great motivator for me, and a great way to maintain some detachment from what happens. But I don’t think it solves the underlying problem, that attachment causes suffering AND causes action.
My solution is to go with “acceptance of the past, action for the future”—I acknowledge the tension, and do not consider it a conundrum or a paradox. I think the somewhat trite “Serenity Prayer” is actually a pretty good guide:
I have to admit that I don’t understand causality of personality traits, nor the variety of human experience, enough to call this a recommendation. I don’t know how someone could change themselves to be more like me, or if it’d work for them. So this isn’t really advice, just observation of self.