For events, one saving grace is that many people actively dislike events getting too large and having too many people, and start to long for the smaller cozier version at that point. So instead of the bigger event competing with the smaller one and drawing people away from it, it might actually work the other way around, with the smaller event being that one that “steals” people from the bigger one.
Thank you! You’re right, “nobody goes there, it’s too crowded” is an effect that keeps the ladder unfurled, as is a kind of cohort dynamic I don’t have as good a conceptual handle for[1]. This post is mostly talking about meetups because they’re on my mind a lot and I had the examples handy. Ideally, the big and the small and the old and the new can reinforce and help each other, and sometimes that works. Other times, we get the pulled up ladder.
at a first pass description, sometimes there’s no public meetup so someone starts one, meets a bunch of new people who don’t have connections, makes friends, start having their friends over for dinner or going to museums and they’re too busy to run the public meetups and don’t need to because they have their social needs met. Then after a year or two of no public meetups, someone new starts one, and the cycle repeats, so you have multiple groups that don’t intermix as much as one might hope.
Nice post! I like the ladder metaphor.
For events, one saving grace is that many people actively dislike events getting too large and having too many people, and start to long for the smaller cozier version at that point. So instead of the bigger event competing with the smaller one and drawing people away from it, it might actually work the other way around, with the smaller event being that one that “steals” people from the bigger one.
Thank you! You’re right, “nobody goes there, it’s too crowded” is an effect that keeps the ladder unfurled, as is a kind of cohort dynamic I don’t have as good a conceptual handle for[1]. This post is mostly talking about meetups because they’re on my mind a lot and I had the examples handy. Ideally, the big and the small and the old and the new can reinforce and help each other, and sometimes that works. Other times, we get the pulled up ladder.
at a first pass description, sometimes there’s no public meetup so someone starts one, meets a bunch of new people who don’t have connections, makes friends, start having their friends over for dinner or going to museums and they’re too busy to run the public meetups and don’t need to because they have their social needs met. Then after a year or two of no public meetups, someone new starts one, and the cycle repeats, so you have multiple groups that don’t intermix as much as one might hope.