Yes, absolutely. I’m not advocating being “nice” in the sense of pretending to agree when you don’t. Being nice about disagreements it will help you do convince people when they’re wrong better.
For instance, if they’re obviously rushed and irritable, having that discussion briefly and badly may very well set them further into their mistaken belief.
In public discussions with more third parties it does change a lot. But it’s important to recognize that how nice you are in public has a large impact on whether you change minds. (Being cleverly mean can help win you points with the already-converted by “dunking”, but that’s not helping with truth seeking).
Yes, absolutely. I’m not advocating being “nice” in the sense of pretending to agree when you don’t. Being nice about disagreements it will help you do convince people when they’re wrong better.
For instance, if they’re obviously rushed and irritable, having that discussion briefly and badly may very well set them further into their mistaken belief.
In public discussions with more third parties it does change a lot. But it’s important to recognize that how nice you are in public has a large impact on whether you change minds. (Being cleverly mean can help win you points with the already-converted by “dunking”, but that’s not helping with truth seeking).