And if anyone is making the group less Fun or scaring off new members,
and yes this includes being a creep who offends potential heroine recruits,
give them an instant ultimatum or just fire them on the spot.
At the LW meetups I’ve been to so far, I’ve seen what I would call ‘swarming’ around each female present. It doesn’t seem malicious, but they each end up being in the center of a group...
I guess this is something for other people to corroborate, I’m just a lonely data point waiting for my line.
I’ve been to 1 meetup with 5 participants, of which one was female (and married to another participant). So I don’t really have much relevant data yet. My guess is if this sort of thing shows up, it happens with larger meetup sizes.
I’m not sure it’s avoidable, though. I think the best improvement vector is to try to decrease the creepiness without trying to decrease the interest.
I can postulate, based on past experience (not with LW meetups).
It depends on the person.
Some people like a lot of attention and find it energising… some people don’t and can find it overwhelming and exhausting. If a person finds it overwhelming and exhausting they may be turned off coming next time.
At the LW meetups I’ve been to so far, I’ve seen what I would call ‘swarming’ around each female present. It doesn’t seem malicious, but they each end up being in the center of a group...
I guess this is something for other people to corroborate, I’m just a lonely data point waiting for my line.
Edit—please disregard this post
Hasn’t happened at the (4) meet ups I’ve been to.
I don’t think we’ve seen this in London, but obviously our actual female participants would be better placed to comment.
I didn’t see it happening while I was there.
That’s good to hear—thanks! Very keen to hear feedback on this sort of thing.
I’ll confirm that this phenomenon exists; I routinely participate in such “swarms”. I do not know to what extent this is actually a problem, though.
I’ve been to 1 meetup with 5 participants, of which one was female (and married to another participant). So I don’t really have much relevant data yet. My guess is if this sort of thing shows up, it happens with larger meetup sizes.
I’m not sure it’s avoidable, though. I think the best improvement vector is to try to decrease the creepiness without trying to decrease the interest.
How many meetups have you been to and seen this? Do you think it produces negative effects; if so, what?
More data, yum yum. :D
I can postulate, based on past experience (not with LW meetups). It depends on the person. Some people like a lot of attention and find it energising… some people don’t and can find it overwhelming and exhausting. If a person finds it overwhelming and exhausting they may be turned off coming next time.