Seems to me that the main problem with linear systems where you put yourself at the top (because, who doesn’t?), is that the only choice it gives everyone else is either to be the same as you, or to be inferior. Disagreeing with the system probably makes one inferior, too.
Feels a bit ironic, if this is considered to be a pinnacle of emotional development...
But of course now I am constructing a frame where I am at the top and those people who like the Kegan scale are silly, so… I guess this is simply what humans do: invent classifications that put them on the top. ;)
And it doesn’t even mean that those frames are wrong; if there is a way to put people on a linear scale, then technically, someone has to be on the top. And if the scale is related to understanding, then your understanding of the scale itself probably should correlate with your position on it.
So, yes, it is better to not talk about the system itself, and just tell people where specifically they made a mistake.
Seems to me that the main problem with linear systems where you put yourself at the top (because, who doesn’t?), is that the only choice it gives everyone else is either to be the same as you, or to be inferior. Disagreeing with the system probably makes one inferior, too.
Feels a bit ironic, if this is considered to be a pinnacle of emotional development...
But of course now I am constructing a frame where I am at the top and those people who like the Kegan scale are silly, so… I guess this is simply what humans do: invent classifications that put them on the top. ;)
And it doesn’t even mean that those frames are wrong; if there is a way to put people on a linear scale, then technically, someone has to be on the top. And if the scale is related to understanding, then your understanding of the scale itself probably should correlate with your position on it.
So, yes, it is better to not talk about the system itself, and just tell people where specifically they made a mistake.