To get a baseline of the severity of the problem I as so often suggest one of these popular polls.
The questions are suggested by the motivating “Why” paragraph in the OP:
Wound you like to be aromantic (for whatever reason in particular but more productivity comes to mind)? [pollid:1149]
How much time does a romantic commitment take (while you are attached)? (time with your romantic partner that you spend productively together e.g. on the job does not count)
[pollid:1150]
And how often do romantic attachments occur (independent of how long they last and whether they overlap)?
[pollid:1151]
How long do these romantic attachments last (end to end each on average)?
[pollid:1152]
How large is the drain on your energy if the search for a partner is frustrated?
Strange… for example, I have fallen in love more-or-less twice, and in the same time, and have come to deeply admire several people with whom I try to hang out once in several months to a year, consciously spending up to half a day to talk for an hour. I even wish to be able to just fall in love with them properly, because it seems that they should be loved by as many people as possible:)
And AFAIK, my unattached twin treats them the same.
Maybe it would be a good idea to ask something like ‘do you expect a change in [parameter] were you strictly aromantic?’
To get a baseline of the severity of the problem I as so often suggest one of these popular polls.
The questions are suggested by the motivating “Why” paragraph in the OP:
Wound you like to be aromantic (for whatever reason in particular but more productivity comes to mind)?
[pollid:1149]
How much time does a romantic commitment take (while you are attached)? (time with your romantic partner that you spend productively together e.g. on the job does not count)
[pollid:1150]
And how often do romantic attachments occur (independent of how long they last and whether they overlap)?
[pollid:1151]
How long do these romantic attachments last (end to end each on average)?
[pollid:1152]
How large is the drain on your energy if the search for a partner is frustrated?
[pollid:1153]
Strange… for example, I have fallen in love more-or-less twice, and in the same time, and have come to deeply admire several people with whom I try to hang out once in several months to a year, consciously spending up to half a day to talk for an hour. I even wish to be able to just fall in love with them properly, because it seems that they should be loved by as many people as possible:)
And AFAIK, my unattached twin treats them the same.
Maybe it would be a good idea to ask something like ‘do you expect a change in [parameter] were you strictly aromantic?’