Only that being consciously aware of the intentions of your smiling/eye-contacting targets must limit it’s value in being anything resembling authentic romantic validation
Why?
But this is soooooooooo far away from anything like the sort of “romantic validation” experienced in actual romantic relationships
How do you know?
Note: it might be the case that I’m supremely weird. Who knows, it can be true. But what strikes me as odd is: as far as I can tell you have only your experience on romantic validation, how can you say that what you feel is the reality for everybody else? As I said for the nth time, it works for me. It might work for others, it’s a thing you can try and see if it works. It’s a hack, after all. What is weird for me is your sense of certainty regarding the way people should feel in such matters.
Out of curiosity, can you use this romantic validation hack on people who are paid to be nice to you? Like a store clerk?
Sure. I mistake politeness for interest every damn time :)
But what strikes me as odd is: as far as I can tell you have only your experience on romantic validation, how can you say that what you feel is the reality for everybody else?
You aren’t arguing over actual feelings, you are arguing over word labels to attach to them (“romantic validation” vs “social validation”).
Note: it might be the case that I’m supremely weird. Who knows, it can be true. But what strikes me as odd is: as far as I can tell you have only your experience on romantic validation, how can you say that what you feel is the reality for everybody else?
As I said for the nth time, it works for me. It might work for others, it’s a thing you can try and see if it works. It’s a hack, after all.
What is weird for me is your sense of certainty regarding the way people should feel in such matters.
I’ve had a romantic relationship. And I’ve smiled at and eye-contacted attractive people. They aren’t the same.
Why?
How do you know?
Note: it might be the case that I’m supremely weird. Who knows, it can be true. But what strikes me as odd is: as far as I can tell you have only your experience on romantic validation, how can you say that what you feel is the reality for everybody else?
As I said for the nth time, it works for me. It might work for others, it’s a thing you can try and see if it works. It’s a hack, after all.
What is weird for me is your sense of certainty regarding the way people should feel in such matters.
Sure. I mistake politeness for interest every damn time :)
You aren’t arguing over actual feelings, you are arguing over word labels to attach to them (“romantic validation” vs “social validation”).
I’ve had a romantic relationship. And I’ve smiled at and eye-contacted attractive people. They aren’t the same.
Of course I’ve only experienced my experiences.