I haven’t been at all diligent about this “the outside view” vs “an outside view” reframing, but I’ll add my own personal anecdote that in general I’ve broadly found these sorts of reframings to be helpful, eg shifting to past tense to say “I’ve tended to be triggered by X” vs “I always get really triggered by X” as a way to feel a sense of self as changing rather than stuck. It generates a whole different meaning.
I haven’t been at all diligent about this “the outside view” vs “an outside view” reframing, but I’ll add my own personal anecdote that in general I’ve broadly found these sorts of reframings to be helpful, eg shifting to past tense to say “I’ve tended to be triggered by X” vs “I always get really triggered by X” as a way to feel a sense of self as changing rather than stuck. It generates a whole different meaning.