It’s probably very difficult to reliably identify a hostile arguer. I mean, my first thought on how to identify such a person is to try and model them to the point where you can think of anything you could say to change their mind. This is probably easier said than done.
You presumably love your family and want them to understand you. I think it’s likely that it’s easy to delude yourself into thinking you can argue your position to them well enough to convince them of it.
I find myself almost in this situation...Family is difficult.
Condolences. For what it’s worth, it does get better. There is light at the end of the tunnel, after the getting-out-of-the-house thing. My own relationship with my family improved tremendously once I was out from under their power, and I’ve seen enough people experience the same to believe that it generalizes.
I find myself almost in this situation.
It’s probably very difficult to reliably identify a hostile arguer. I mean, my first thought on how to identify such a person is to try and model them to the point where you can think of anything you could say to change their mind. This is probably easier said than done.
You presumably love your family and want them to understand you. I think it’s likely that it’s easy to delude yourself into thinking you can argue your position to them well enough to convince them of it.
Family is difficult.
Condolences. For what it’s worth, it does get better. There is light at the end of the tunnel, after the getting-out-of-the-house thing. My own relationship with my family improved tremendously once I was out from under their power, and I’ve seen enough people experience the same to believe that it generalizes.
Thanks, but I must clarify...the “almost” part of that is that I’m in my mid 30s and married with a kid.
Of course, being your own person doesn’t mean you don’t deal with your family.