Number 4 is even worse than that. Physical health is deeply entangled with mental health. Many never get the generator spinning because the first 6-18 months can have fairly illegible feedback loops depending on where you start. And it can be stupid stuff. I only managed to start running once I got really frustrated and tried 12 pairs of shoes to find some that didn’t bother my feet. It was a hassle, but it permanently solved the problem since I now know what parameters to look for. Compounding small permanent wins doesn’t look all that impressive until you hit the knee of the curve and then it goes from famine to feast. Getting those success spirals ramping up is why Peterson is telling people to clean their room and why Marie Kondo’s book bills it as Life Changing Magic. If you internalize the meta pattern instead of thinking it’s just about cleaning your room you’re off to the races. (IFS is KonMarie for the inside of your head)
I’ve also referred to this as instantiating the spoon reinvestment act. Determining to reinvest a portion of any gained spoons in spoon generating activities. See also, slack: https://thezvi.wordpress.com/2017/09/30/slack/
Absolutely. Another way of thinking about it is a punctuated equilibrium: in some domains it feels like nothing is happening for the longest time, then you suddenly experience ‘overnight’ success. I have noticed that I find projects with delayed or noisy feedback loops super stressful, even if I know there’s a solid expected payoff waiting in the wings.
I am a fan of Marie Kondo and Peterson for the exact reason you describe, and enough people have mentioned IFS now that I’ll have to check it out. What’s the ‘spoon’ thing in reference to? This seems to be one of those LW-isms that I’ve missed somehow.
Number 4 is even worse than that. Physical health is deeply entangled with mental health. Many never get the generator spinning because the first 6-18 months can have fairly illegible feedback loops depending on where you start. And it can be stupid stuff. I only managed to start running once I got really frustrated and tried 12 pairs of shoes to find some that didn’t bother my feet. It was a hassle, but it permanently solved the problem since I now know what parameters to look for. Compounding small permanent wins doesn’t look all that impressive until you hit the knee of the curve and then it goes from famine to feast. Getting those success spirals ramping up is why Peterson is telling people to clean their room and why Marie Kondo’s book bills it as Life Changing Magic. If you internalize the meta pattern instead of thinking it’s just about cleaning your room you’re off to the races. (IFS is KonMarie for the inside of your head)
I’ve also referred to this as instantiating the spoon reinvestment act. Determining to reinvest a portion of any gained spoons in spoon generating activities. See also, slack: https://thezvi.wordpress.com/2017/09/30/slack/
Absolutely. Another way of thinking about it is a punctuated equilibrium: in some domains it feels like nothing is happening for the longest time, then you suddenly experience ‘overnight’ success. I have noticed that I find projects with delayed or noisy feedback loops super stressful, even if I know there’s a solid expected payoff waiting in the wings.
I am a fan of Marie Kondo and Peterson for the exact reason you describe, and enough people have mentioned IFS now that I’ll have to check it out. What’s the ‘spoon’ thing in reference to? This seems to be one of those LW-isms that I’ve missed somehow.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory