I wasn’t trying to explain how Eliezer’s world works—I upvoted the original comment specifically because I don’t know how it works, and I’m curious. If you were taking my explanation as an attempt to provide that information, I’m sure it came across as a poor attempt, because I was in fact specifically avoiding speculating about the world Eliezer created. What I was attempting to do was show—from an outsider’s perspective, since that’s the one I have, and it’s obviously more useful than an insider’s perspective in this case—the aspects how humans determine selfhood and boundaries that make such a change possible (yes, just ‘possible’), and also that Eliezer had shown understanding of the existence of those aspects.
If I had been trying to add more information to the story—writing fanfiction, or speculating on facts about the world itself—applying your backpedal-ratio heuristic would make some sense (though I’d still object to your use of length-in-words as a measurement, and there are details of using new-concepts as a measurement that I’m not sure you’ve noticed), but I wasn’t. I was observing facts about the real world, specifically about humans and how dramatically different socialization can affect us.
As to why the character didn’t understand why people from our time react so strongly to rape, the obvious (to me) answer is a simple lack of explanation by us. There’s a very strong assumption in this society that everyone shares the aspects of selfhood that make rape bad (to the point where I often have to hide the fact that I don’t share them, or suffer social repercussions), and very little motivation to even to consider why it’s considered bad, much less leave a record of such thoughts. Even living in this society, with every advantage but having the relevant trait in understanding why people react that way, I haven’t found an explanation that really makes sense of the issue, only one that does a coherent job of organizing the reactions that I’ve observed on my own.
So does your lack of a sexual self make it so you can’t see rape as bad at all, or “only” as bad as beating someone up? Presumably someone without a sexual self could still see assault as bad, and rape includes assault and violence.
Disregarding the extra physical and social risks of the rape (STDs, pregnancy, etc.), I expect that I wouldn’t find assault-plus-unwelcome-sex more traumatic than an equivalent assault without the sex. I do agree that assault is traumatic, and I understand that most people don’t agree with me about how traumatic assault-with-rape is compared to regular assault.
A note, for my own personal safety: The fact that I wouldn’t find it as traumatic means I’m much more likely to report it, and to be able to give a coherent report, if I do wind up being raped. It’s not something I’d just let pass, traumatic or no; people who are unwilling to respect others’ preferences are dangerous and should be dealt with as such.
Assault by itself is pretty traumatic. Not just the physical pain, but the stress, fear, and feeling of loss of control. I was mugged at knifepoint once, and though I wasn’t physically hurt at all, the worst part was just feeling totally powerless and at the mercy of someone else. I was so scared I couldn’t move or speak.
I don’t think your views on rape are as far from the norm as you seem to think. They make sense to me.
Rape can happen without assault, though—I know someone to whom such a rape happened, and she found it very traumatic, to the point where it still affects her life decades later.
There are also apparently other things that can evoke the same kind of traumatized reaction without involving physical contact at all; Eliezer gave ‘having nude photos posted online against your will’ as an example. (I mentioned that example in a discussion with the aforementioned friend, and she agreed with Eliezer that it’d be similarly traumatic, in both type and degree, for whatever one data-point might be worth.)
I wasn’t trying to explain how Eliezer’s world works—I upvoted the original comment specifically because I don’t know how it works, and I’m curious. If you were taking my explanation as an attempt to provide that information, I’m sure it came across as a poor attempt, because I was in fact specifically avoiding speculating about the world Eliezer created. What I was attempting to do was show—from an outsider’s perspective, since that’s the one I have, and it’s obviously more useful than an insider’s perspective in this case—the aspects how humans determine selfhood and boundaries that make such a change possible (yes, just ‘possible’), and also that Eliezer had shown understanding of the existence of those aspects.
If I had been trying to add more information to the story—writing fanfiction, or speculating on facts about the world itself—applying your backpedal-ratio heuristic would make some sense (though I’d still object to your use of length-in-words as a measurement, and there are details of using new-concepts as a measurement that I’m not sure you’ve noticed), but I wasn’t. I was observing facts about the real world, specifically about humans and how dramatically different socialization can affect us.
As to why the character didn’t understand why people from our time react so strongly to rape, the obvious (to me) answer is a simple lack of explanation by us. There’s a very strong assumption in this society that everyone shares the aspects of selfhood that make rape bad (to the point where I often have to hide the fact that I don’t share them, or suffer social repercussions), and very little motivation to even to consider why it’s considered bad, much less leave a record of such thoughts. Even living in this society, with every advantage but having the relevant trait in understanding why people react that way, I haven’t found an explanation that really makes sense of the issue, only one that does a coherent job of organizing the reactions that I’ve observed on my own.
So does your lack of a sexual self make it so you can’t see rape as bad at all, or “only” as bad as beating someone up? Presumably someone without a sexual self could still see assault as bad, and rape includes assault and violence.
Disregarding the extra physical and social risks of the rape (STDs, pregnancy, etc.), I expect that I wouldn’t find assault-plus-unwelcome-sex more traumatic than an equivalent assault without the sex. I do agree that assault is traumatic, and I understand that most people don’t agree with me about how traumatic assault-with-rape is compared to regular assault.
A note, for my own personal safety: The fact that I wouldn’t find it as traumatic means I’m much more likely to report it, and to be able to give a coherent report, if I do wind up being raped. It’s not something I’d just let pass, traumatic or no; people who are unwilling to respect others’ preferences are dangerous and should be dealt with as such.
Assault by itself is pretty traumatic. Not just the physical pain, but the stress, fear, and feeling of loss of control. I was mugged at knifepoint once, and though I wasn’t physically hurt at all, the worst part was just feeling totally powerless and at the mercy of someone else. I was so scared I couldn’t move or speak.
I don’t think your views on rape are as far from the norm as you seem to think. They make sense to me.
Rape can happen without assault, though—I know someone to whom such a rape happened, and she found it very traumatic, to the point where it still affects her life decades later.
There are also apparently other things that can evoke the same kind of traumatized reaction without involving physical contact at all; Eliezer gave ‘having nude photos posted online against your will’ as an example. (I mentioned that example in a discussion with the aforementioned friend, and she agreed with Eliezer that it’d be similarly traumatic, in both type and degree, for whatever one data-point might be worth.)