I suppose that’s true, though it’s not obvious to me that something would have to start as a fetish to wind up considered sexual by a culture.
It wouldn’t. That’s not what I meant: I meant that someone considering Victorian culture, say, where it was allegedly commonplace to find ankles sexy, might not find it too surprising if he knew about people with an ankle fetish in this culture. As in “I know someone who finds ankles sexy in this culture, so it’s not that weird for ankles to be considered sexy in a completely different culture.”
Communicating risky information is more of a pair-bonding thing than a sexual one. I was thinking about seeing something taboo or hidden as sexual. Say it’s in a picture or it’s unintentional, so there’s no communicative intent. A lot of sexuals find it exciting just because it’s “forbidden”. You might be able to relate if you’ve ever been told you can’t do something and that just made you want it more.
A lot of sexuals find it exciting just because it’s “forbidden”. You might be able to relate if you’ve ever been told you can’t do something and that just made you want it more.
That sounds bizarre. I understand assuming that something that a higher-ranking person is allowed to have, that you’re not allowed, is a good thing to try to get. It sounds like the cause and effect part of it what you described is backwards from the way that makes sense to me: ‘This is good because it’s not allowed’, not ‘this is not allowed because it’s good and in limited supply’. What could being wired that way possibly accomplish besides causing you grief?
ETA: I have heard of that particular mental quirk before, and probably even seen it in action. I’m not saying that it’s unusual to have it, just that it seems incomprehensible and potentially harmful, to me.
Well, you’re really asking two questions: why is it useful, and how to comprehend it.
As far as comprehending it… well, I had thought it was a human universal to be drawn to forbidden things. Have you really never felt the urge to do something forbidden, or the desire to break rules? Maybe it’s just because I tend to be a thrill-seeker and a risk-taker.
I think you might be misunderstanding. I don’t make a logical deduction that something is a good thing because it’s not allowed. I do feel emotionally drawn towards things that are forbidden. It’s got nothing to do with “higher-ranking” people.
It’s a pretty natural human urge to go exploring and messing around in forbidden areas. It’s useful because it’s what helps topple dictatorships, encourages scientific inquiry, and stirs up revolutions.
I don’t think I’ve ever felt the need to break a rule just for the sake of doing so. I vaguely remember being curious enough about the supposed draw of doing forbidden things to try it in some minor way, out of curiosity, as a teenager, but it’s pretty obvious how that worked out. (My memory of my teenage years is horrible, so I don’t have details, and could actually be incorrect altogether.) My reaction to rules in general is fairly neutral: I tend to assume that they have (or at least, were intended to have) good reasons behind them, but have no objection to breaking rules whose reasons don’t seem relevant to the issue at hand.
I did understand that you were talking about something different, but that different thing doesn’t make sense.
I am typically only drawn to forbidden things when I do not know why they are forbidden, or know that they are forbidden for stupid reasons and find the forbidden thing a desideratum for other reasons. In the first case, it’s a matter of curiosity—why has someone troubled to forbid me this thing? In the second, it’s just that the thing is already a desideratum and the forbiddance provides no successfully countervailing reason to avoid seeking it.
What could being wired that way possibly accomplish besides causing you grief?
Like the ‘prestige’ metric that has been discussed recently ‘things that the powerful want to stop me from doing’ is a strong indicator of potential value to someone even though it is intrinsically meaningless. Obviously having this generalised wiring leads them to desire irrelevant or even detrimental things sometimes.
It wouldn’t. That’s not what I meant: I meant that someone considering Victorian culture, say, where it was allegedly commonplace to find ankles sexy, might not find it too surprising if he knew about people with an ankle fetish in this culture. As in “I know someone who finds ankles sexy in this culture, so it’s not that weird for ankles to be considered sexy in a completely different culture.”
Communicating risky information is more of a pair-bonding thing than a sexual one. I was thinking about seeing something taboo or hidden as sexual. Say it’s in a picture or it’s unintentional, so there’s no communicative intent. A lot of sexuals find it exciting just because it’s “forbidden”. You might be able to relate if you’ve ever been told you can’t do something and that just made you want it more.
That sounds bizarre. I understand assuming that something that a higher-ranking person is allowed to have, that you’re not allowed, is a good thing to try to get. It sounds like the cause and effect part of it what you described is backwards from the way that makes sense to me: ‘This is good because it’s not allowed’, not ‘this is not allowed because it’s good and in limited supply’. What could being wired that way possibly accomplish besides causing you grief?
ETA: I have heard of that particular mental quirk before, and probably even seen it in action. I’m not saying that it’s unusual to have it, just that it seems incomprehensible and potentially harmful, to me.
Well, you’re really asking two questions: why is it useful, and how to comprehend it.
As far as comprehending it… well, I had thought it was a human universal to be drawn to forbidden things. Have you really never felt the urge to do something forbidden, or the desire to break rules? Maybe it’s just because I tend to be a thrill-seeker and a risk-taker.
I think you might be misunderstanding. I don’t make a logical deduction that something is a good thing because it’s not allowed. I do feel emotionally drawn towards things that are forbidden. It’s got nothing to do with “higher-ranking” people.
It’s a pretty natural human urge to go exploring and messing around in forbidden areas. It’s useful because it’s what helps topple dictatorships, encourages scientific inquiry, and stirs up revolutions.
I don’t think I’ve ever felt the need to break a rule just for the sake of doing so. I vaguely remember being curious enough about the supposed draw of doing forbidden things to try it in some minor way, out of curiosity, as a teenager, but it’s pretty obvious how that worked out. (My memory of my teenage years is horrible, so I don’t have details, and could actually be incorrect altogether.) My reaction to rules in general is fairly neutral: I tend to assume that they have (or at least, were intended to have) good reasons behind them, but have no objection to breaking rules whose reasons don’t seem relevant to the issue at hand.
I did understand that you were talking about something different, but that different thing doesn’t make sense.
I am typically only drawn to forbidden things when I do not know why they are forbidden, or know that they are forbidden for stupid reasons and find the forbidden thing a desideratum for other reasons. In the first case, it’s a matter of curiosity—why has someone troubled to forbid me this thing? In the second, it’s just that the thing is already a desideratum and the forbiddance provides no successfully countervailing reason to avoid seeking it.
Like the ‘prestige’ metric that has been discussed recently ‘things that the powerful want to stop me from doing’ is a strong indicator of potential value to someone even though it is intrinsically meaningless. Obviously having this generalised wiring leads them to desire irrelevant or even detrimental things sometimes.
I haven’t been reading that. I’ll go check it out. Maybe it’ll help.