As I said, my main problem is lack of practice, not theory. I will skim your forum, but probably that’s it. Too bad geography doesn’t allow the option of hanging out together, debating theory and practicing it.
There is also a book called The Passion Paradox; is there a chance you have read both and confused them? (Or maybe existence of another book with the same name was the reason for renaming.)
Speaking of PUA celebrities, Neil Strauss (approximately my age) is divorced after having one child. I have a happy family with two kids. Of course, different people optimize for different things, and sex is mostly not used for reproduction, but it still feels weird when I am more successful in family life and reproductively than a famous expert on sex and relationships. I mean, the main reason I became interested in PUA decades ago was fear that I might not be able to… well, have the type of life I have now… and somehow Neil Strauss, the famous PUA, does not (despite having many great skills that I don’t have). This is related to the “overestimating the greener grass on the other side”. I guess my only remaining hero is Athol Kay.
But of course there are also other reasons to expand social skills, such as increasing my income, or increasing my impact on the world.
I read the older, now-renamed book that I linked. The newer one has different authors. I saw it when searching and confirmed the right author for the one I read by searching old emails.
You made a lot of good points.
As I said, my main problem is lack of practice, not theory. I will skim your forum, but probably that’s it. Too bad geography doesn’t allow the option of hanging out together, debating theory and practicing it.
There is also a book called The Passion Paradox; is there a chance you have read both and confused them? (Or maybe existence of another book with the same name was the reason for renaming.)
Speaking of PUA celebrities, Neil Strauss (approximately my age) is divorced after having one child. I have a happy family with two kids. Of course, different people optimize for different things, and sex is mostly not used for reproduction, but it still feels weird when I am more successful in family life and reproductively than a famous expert on sex and relationships. I mean, the main reason I became interested in PUA decades ago was fear that I might not be able to… well, have the type of life I have now… and somehow Neil Strauss, the famous PUA, does not (despite having many great skills that I don’t have). This is related to the “overestimating the greener grass on the other side”. I guess my only remaining hero is Athol Kay.
But of course there are also other reasons to expand social skills, such as increasing my income, or increasing my impact on the world.
Thanks for the debate!
I read the older, now-renamed book that I linked. The newer one has different authors. I saw it when searching and confirmed the right author for the one I read by searching old emails.