Supposing for the sake of inquiry that Sally is ambivalent about or indifferent to the presence or absence of sex in her relationships (but suitably enthusiastic once it’s been introduced), and just wants to minimize the probability that she’ll be dumped, what should she do?
Roughly: be clearly and unambiguously sexually interested in Bob but delay sex itself for a couple of weeks. It can be more fun that way anyway… spreading out the ‘novelty’ phase of the relationship a bit longer. (It’s a good strategy for Bob, too.)
This varies to a ridiculous degree in context and things like age. But in general I’d say the ‘madonna-whore’ theory is overstated. Partially because I find the described preferences extremely hard to empathize with. My own experienced emotions and observed historical behaviors in no way reflect that pattern.
Roughly: be clearly and unambiguously sexually interested in Bob but delay sex itself for a couple of weeks. It can be more fun that way anyway… spreading out the ‘novelty’ phase of the relationship a bit longer. (It’s a good strategy for Bob, too.)
This varies to a ridiculous degree in context and things like age. But in general I’d say the ‘madonna-whore’ theory is overstated. Partially because I find the described preferences extremely hard to empathize with. My own experienced emotions and observed historical behaviors in no way reflect that pattern.