Good point! I guess I am biased as I do not have the gift of lots of work mobility right now, I can’t change teams or jobs without lots of effort.
I guess I was thinking more friends and non-household relatives, but I didn’t say that.
Even though I butchered the analogy; I think there is still a different dynamic at play, where my kids and wife don’t owe me anything like someone who is being paid to help me.
I don’t know how it looks like at your work, so hard to judge. But, I would say that your wife and kids do owe you, and you do owe them. It’s not like you can stop carrying for your wife and kids tomorrow without breaching a strong (though informal) social contract.
And well, your colleagues are paid to do their job, but normally I would expect them to have a lots of freedom in how they do the job and how much of their attention will they spend helping other people? So, it’s still kind of a choice if they do? But, again, I don’t know your workplace, so maybe its more strict and formal?
Good point! I guess I am biased as I do not have the gift of lots of work mobility right now, I can’t change teams or jobs without lots of effort.
I guess I was thinking more friends and non-household relatives, but I didn’t say that.
Even though I butchered the analogy; I think there is still a different dynamic at play, where my kids and wife don’t owe me anything like someone who is being paid to help me.
I don’t know how it looks like at your work, so hard to judge. But, I would say that your wife and kids do owe you, and you do owe them. It’s not like you can stop carrying for your wife and kids tomorrow without breaching a strong (though informal) social contract.
And well, your colleagues are paid to do their job, but normally I would expect them to have a lots of freedom in how they do the job and how much of their attention will they spend helping other people? So, it’s still kind of a choice if they do? But, again, I don’t know your workplace, so maybe its more strict and formal?