I don’t know how it looks like at your work, so hard to judge. But, I would say that your wife and kids do owe you, and you do owe them. It’s not like you can stop carrying for your wife and kids tomorrow without breaching a strong (though informal) social contract.
And well, your colleagues are paid to do their job, but normally I would expect them to have a lots of freedom in how they do the job and how much of their attention will they spend helping other people? So, it’s still kind of a choice if they do? But, again, I don’t know your workplace, so maybe its more strict and formal?
I don’t know how it looks like at your work, so hard to judge. But, I would say that your wife and kids do owe you, and you do owe them. It’s not like you can stop carrying for your wife and kids tomorrow without breaching a strong (though informal) social contract.
And well, your colleagues are paid to do their job, but normally I would expect them to have a lots of freedom in how they do the job and how much of their attention will they spend helping other people? So, it’s still kind of a choice if they do? But, again, I don’t know your workplace, so maybe its more strict and formal?