That’s good to hear! But it’s a shame that it puts you out of sync with people. If it’s all people, maybe your environment is not very good? Maybe the rat race dominates? I can ‘vibe’ with people, which I think is a form of synchronization or communication on a deeper level than the verbal.
Getting close to people like this requires that both of us have some sort of inner peace, calm or firmness. Too much noise, anxiety, alertness, doubt and mistrust kills it. The cognitive overhead of internal conflict and noise is enough to distract us. Even a headache (which also hijacks your attention) can prevent ‘immersion’ in the moment / the situation / the people around you.
I simply aim to move into my center, and let the flow reverse outwards into the world, vs. trying to grasp at things and draw them in
Excellent put! This “drawing in” is a form of theft/greed anyway. It puts a burden on others. It tries to control things rather than letting them flow naturally.
It might be “trying” which is interfering with “doing”, or “the ego” which is interfering with “letting go”, but my favorite perspective here is that it’s system 2 interfering with system 1. Things which come naturally are graceful, and when we try too hard to control everything ourselves, things become stiff and awkward. Let me show you what I mean: you’re now breathing manually.
I am retired more or less, but aside from a bunch of financial loose ends that my late mother bequeated myself and my sister, no racing rats here. [Sunsets maybe, in my car] I have connected successfully with fellow wildlife volunteers and plan to start doing that again later in the spring (the key for me was birds and nature—a close encounter with a peregrine falcon got my all turned around, had 3 more subsequently, one where I could have reached out and touched it as it flew past me on a highrise balcony).
I like the “theft” angle, because in my case I know that is exactly what it was, when I was severely depressed. “Oh pity poor little old woe is me!”
That’s good to hear! But it’s a shame that it puts you out of sync with people. If it’s all people, maybe your environment is not very good? Maybe the rat race dominates? I can ‘vibe’ with people, which I think is a form of synchronization or communication on a deeper level than the verbal.
Getting close to people like this requires that both of us have some sort of inner peace, calm or firmness. Too much noise, anxiety, alertness, doubt and mistrust kills it. The cognitive overhead of internal conflict and noise is enough to distract us. Even a headache (which also hijacks your attention) can prevent ‘immersion’ in the moment / the situation / the people around you.
Excellent put! This “drawing in” is a form of theft/greed anyway. It puts a burden on others. It tries to control things rather than letting them flow naturally.
It might be “trying” which is interfering with “doing”, or “the ego” which is interfering with “letting go”, but my favorite perspective here is that it’s system 2 interfering with system 1. Things which come naturally are graceful, and when we try too hard to control everything ourselves, things become stiff and awkward. Let me show you what I mean: you’re now breathing manually.
I am retired more or less, but aside from a bunch of financial loose ends that my late mother bequeated myself and my sister, no racing rats here. [Sunsets maybe, in my car] I have connected successfully with fellow wildlife volunteers and plan to start doing that again later in the spring (the key for me was birds and nature—a close encounter with a peregrine falcon got my all turned around, had 3 more subsequently, one where I could have reached out and touched it as it flew past me on a highrise balcony).
I like the “theft” angle, because in my case I know that is exactly what it was, when I was severely depressed. “Oh pity poor little old woe is me!”