This combination of failure modes seems pretty dicey.
I think I’ve encountered something similar in relationships, where my naive thought was “they’re doing something wrong/harmful and I should help them avoid it” but I eventually realized “them having an internal locus of control and not feeling like I’m out to micromanage them is way more important than any given suboptimal thing they’re doing.”
This combination of failure modes seems pretty dicey.
I think I’ve encountered something similar in relationships, where my naive thought was “they’re doing something wrong/harmful and I should help them avoid it” but I eventually realized “them having an internal locus of control and not feeling like I’m out to micromanage them is way more important than any given suboptimal thing they’re doing.”