I’m not sure if the perfectionism case (being perfect to please others) fits the identity pattern. Although admittedly, in some people the shadow/acknowledged value is flipped—some people will acknowledge being perfect to please others, but won’t acknowledge the part of themselves that want to do it for themselves.
Thinking that some things aren’t all right to acknowledge might be more fundamental.
I was guessing that “all of the shadow stuff is about how people think of themselves (i.e. identity. I am _, I am not _.) because it’s something people get tied up in, and it’s a reason someone might want to deny something.
I also think of Perfectionism (and it’s opposites, not trying (if the standard is unobtainable*)) as being (related to) fear of failure.
*This might cash out as:
“I’m good at X” → does well, puts in a lot of effort (Maybe judges people for having low standards, or has different personal standards, whether high, nonjudgemental, distributed, etc.), may seek it out + challenges in domain
I’m not sure if the perfectionism case (being perfect to please others) fits the identity pattern. Although admittedly, in some people the shadow/acknowledged value is flipped—some people will acknowledge being perfect to please others, but won’t acknowledge the part of themselves that want to do it for themselves.
Thinking that some things aren’t all right to acknowledge might be more fundamental.
I was guessing that “all of the shadow stuff is about how people think of themselves (i.e. identity. I am _, I am not _.) because it’s something people get tied up in, and it’s a reason someone might want to deny something.
I also think of Perfectionism (and it’s opposites, not trying (if the standard is unobtainable*)) as being (related to) fear of failure.
*This might cash out as:
“I’m good at X” → does well, puts in a lot of effort (Maybe judges people for having low standards, or has different personal standards, whether high, nonjudgemental, distributed, etc.), may seek it out + challenges in domain
“I’m bad at Y” → doesn’t try, scrapes by, avoids/ugh field/procrastinates, says ‘it doesn’t matter’/‘i don’t care’, judges self, maybe dirty pain
(It’s not super easy to delineate ‘enjoys/seeks out thing’ from (consistently) ‘works to get better at it’.)