My biggest win lately (Courtesy of Elliot Teperman) in regards to self love is to get in the habit of thinking of myself as the parent of a child (myself) who I have unconditional love for, and saying what that parent would say.
An unexpected benefit of this is that I’ve started talking like this to others.
Like, sometimes my friends just need to hear that I appreciate them as a human being, and am proud of them for what they accomplished and its’ not the type of thing I used to say at all.
And so do I, I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear that sort of thing from myself until I started saying it regularly.
One could call this Internal Parent Systems. Not to be confused with the default installed one that many of has that judges, criticizes, or blames in our parents’ voice :). A close cousin of Qiaochu Yuan’s Internal Puppy Systems
I think this has some interesting parallels to transactional analysis. In that model you could think of it as exercising your parent part to talk to your child part and to talk to the child part of others.
My biggest win lately (Courtesy of Elliot Teperman) in regards to self love is to get in the habit of thinking of myself as the parent of a child (myself) who I have unconditional love for, and saying what that parent would say.
An unexpected benefit of this is that I’ve started talking like this to others.
Like, sometimes my friends just need to hear that I appreciate them as a human being, and am proud of them for what they accomplished and its’ not the type of thing I used to say at all.
And so do I, I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear that sort of thing from myself until I started saying it regularly.
One could call this Internal Parent Systems. Not to be confused with the default installed one that many of has that judges, criticizes, or blames in our parents’ voice :). A close cousin of Qiaochu Yuan’s Internal Puppy Systems
I think this has some interesting parallels to transactional analysis. In that model you could think of it as exercising your parent part to talk to your child part and to talk to the child part of others.