We’ve noticed all our choices. We’ve brainstormed better options. We’ve decided that this is the best course of action.
And yet, it’s an awful choice. Reality forced us into a bad situation, and we hold a grudge against.
So we do our task.
But we kick, and scream, and moan about having to do it. We can do it, but we’re not gonna like it! We can do it, but by god are we gonna expend energy showing ourselves how much we don’t like it.
And so we sit there, pushing against that which can not be moved.
Holding on to our grudge against reality.
Shoulding ourselves in the foot.
And it’s at this point we can ask ourselves… is this serving us?
Sometimes, the answer is yes. This grudge connects us to our values, or protects us from a truth we’re not equipped to handle.
But often… far far more often, the answer is no.
All that kicking against a brick wall has done for us is to give us a stubbed toe.
So we stare at this grudge, and we thank this grudge for connecting us to our values. And we ask ourselves, with an open heart:
One step deeper into the maze—why fight it? Why bother to remember that this is currently necessary to meet our immediate goals, but also contradicts our overall preferences?
(note: I generally agree, just giving a counterpoint. I think the key is that letting-go is temporary. You can accept it and move on, but you should have a trigger or date to re-examine the grudge and determine if it’s time to do something about it.)
Grudgingness is the productivity killer.
We’ve noticed all our choices. We’ve brainstormed better options. We’ve decided that this is the best course of action.
And yet, it’s an awful choice. Reality forced us into a bad situation, and we hold a grudge against.
So we do our task.
But we kick, and scream, and moan about having to do it. We can do it, but we’re not gonna like it! We can do it, but by god are we gonna expend energy showing ourselves how much we don’t like it.
And so we sit there, pushing against that which can not be moved.
Holding on to our grudge against reality.
Shoulding ourselves in the foot.
And it’s at this point we can ask ourselves… is this serving us?
Sometimes, the answer is yes. This grudge connects us to our values, or protects us from a truth we’re not equipped to handle.
But often… far far more often, the answer is no.
All that kicking against a brick wall has done for us is to give us a stubbed toe.
So we stare at this grudge, and we thank this grudge for connecting us to our values. And we ask ourselves, with an open heart:
Is it time to let this go?
One step deeper into the maze—why fight it? Why bother to remember that this is currently necessary to meet our immediate goals, but also contradicts our overall preferences?
(note: I generally agree, just giving a counterpoint. I think the key is that letting-go is temporary. You can accept it and move on, but you should have a trigger or date to re-examine the grudge and determine if it’s time to do something about it.)