For what it’s worth, I bet the intention was as follows: Ben had mentioned that he was going to ration his time in this thread for fear of rabbit-holes, he thought you might prefer to have some idea how much more Said-Ben discussion was possible, and so (the amount of time he’d spent not being immediately visible) he added that note. So, exactly the result of insulting intent.
If Said is insulted by your clarity about how much time you’re investing in interpretive labor, then I think this is evidence that Said’s sense of offense is not value-aligned with good discourse. If someone put a note like that on a response to a comment by me, I’d feel like they were making an effort to be metacooperative. 30 minutes is a long time for a single comment!
Honestly, this is just insulting. I don’t know if you intended it that way, but this does an excellent job of discouraging me from engaging.
For what it’s worth, I bet the intention was as follows: Ben had mentioned that he was going to ration his time in this thread for fear of rabbit-holes, he thought you might prefer to have some idea how much more Said-Ben discussion was possible, and so (the amount of time he’d spent not being immediately visible) he added that note. So, exactly the result of insulting intent.
I didn’t intend it that way. I will not write them further and will keep them privately.
If Said is insulted by your clarity about how much time you’re investing in interpretive labor, then I think this is evidence that Said’s sense of offense is not value-aligned with good discourse. If someone put a note like that on a response to a comment by me, I’d feel like they were making an effort to be metacooperative. 30 minutes is a long time for a single comment!