What if there would never be someone I trusted who could tell me I was Good Enough, that things were in some sense Okay?
The internalized feeling that you’re not okay is a huge part of what motivates you to become better. If you lost it, you would be much more likely to become complacent and stagnate. Both inner peace and relentless drive are profoundly valuable, but they are mutually exclusive.
I agree this is how a lot of people execute “become stronger” this way. It’s not too surprising if it turns out to be an essential part of the process (at least when implemented in humans).
But, at the very least there seem like more and less healthy ways of doing it, and I personally think I see the outlines of how I could operate fairly differently and still have my drive.
What if there would never be someone I trusted who could tell me I was Good Enough, that things were in some sense Okay?
The internalized feeling that you’re not okay is a huge part of what motivates you to become better. If you lost it, you would be much more likely to become complacent and stagnate. Both inner peace and relentless drive are profoundly valuable, but they are mutually exclusive.
I agree this is how a lot of people execute “become stronger” this way. It’s not too surprising if it turns out to be an essential part of the process (at least when implemented in humans).
But, at the very least there seem like more and less healthy ways of doing it, and I personally think I see the outlines of how I could operate fairly differently and still have my drive.