I’m curious why you felt you lost face by having your bid for synpathy turned down, that seems to reflect poorly on the other person, not you.
“I don’t find your distress worthy of my attention” suggests that the other person has higher status than the one in distress, since they can dismiss the bid without needing to expect censure from others.
“I don’t find your distress worthy of my attention” suggests that the other person has higher status than the one in distress, since they can dismiss the bid without needing to expect censure from others.