Also, if you have an idea about what my values Really Are that is unconnected to what I tell you about them, I don’t want you anywhere near any decisions about my life.
I get my ideas about what people’s values Really Are based on their decisions. How much weight I place on what they tell me about their values varies based on their behaviour and what they say. I don’t make it my business to be anywhere near any decisions about other people’s lives except to the extent that they could impact me and I need to protect my interests.
I don’t grant nearly as much credence to the idea that there are human-universal values as most people around here seem to. People are a wacky, diverse bunch.
That assumption (and presumption!) of human-universal values scares me at times. It triggers my instinctive “if you actually had the power to act on that belief I would have to kill you” instinct.
Even with that kind of ruthless self-determination in mind it is true that “acting on the misconstrued values is against the person’s own actual values”. Vladmir’s point is not particularly controversial, whether it applies to you or not is for you to decide and Vladmir to speculate on if he happens to be curious.
Absolutely. And I weigh that information higher coming from yourself than from many people given my observations of apparent self awareness and maturity somewhat beyond what I expect given your self reported age. Obviously such judgements also vary based on topic and context.
In general, however, my life has been a lot simpler and more successful since realising what people say about their values is not always a reliable indicator.
I get my ideas about what people’s values Really Are based on their decisions. How much weight I place on what they tell me about their values varies based on their behaviour and what they say. I don’t make it my business to be anywhere near any decisions about other people’s lives except to the extent that they could impact me and I need to protect my interests.
That assumption (and presumption!) of human-universal values scares me at times. It triggers my instinctive “if you actually had the power to act on that belief I would have to kill you” instinct.
Even with that kind of ruthless self-determination in mind it is true that “acting on the misconstrued values is against the person’s own actual values”. Vladmir’s point is not particularly controversial, whether it applies to you or not is for you to decide and Vladmir to speculate on if he happens to be curious.
My decision to tell you about my values counts as a decision, doesn’t it?
Absolutely. And I weigh that information higher coming from yourself than from many people given my observations of apparent self awareness and maturity somewhat beyond what I expect given your self reported age. Obviously such judgements also vary based on topic and context.
In general, however, my life has been a lot simpler and more successful since realising what people say about their values is not always a reliable indicator.