The biggest thing that didn’t work for us (note: four boys): All kinds of interventions to reduce or prevent conflict and fighting. Examples: Helping them understand the other, setting up incentives, intervening, separating, appealing to emotion… They didn’t fight continuously and liked to do things together, but some intense conflict would come up every day or week. And in the end the conflict stopped on its own relatively suddenly without an obvious cause (the likely cause: Something maturity something). Well, maybe the work to reduce conflict was still needed or at least useful, but I think the effort could have been better spent.
The biggest thing that didn’t work for us (note: four boys): All kinds of interventions to reduce or prevent conflict and fighting. Examples: Helping them understand the other, setting up incentives, intervening, separating, appealing to emotion… They didn’t fight continuously and liked to do things together, but some intense conflict would come up every day or week. And in the end the conflict stopped on its own relatively suddenly without an obvious cause (the likely cause: Something maturity something). Well, maybe the work to reduce conflict was still needed or at least useful, but I think the effort could have been better spent.
There were maybe half a dozen downvotes. Would anybody like to comment on what that could refer to?