Or have more experience and can actually differentiate. The one relationship I’ve been in that didn’t have a sexual component was emotionally draining for other reasons. As I get older and actually experience more variations, I may change my mind. I’m sure there’s a potentially valuable difference...but I’m reluctant to chase after polyamorous-but-non-sexual relationships just to recoup that difference.
so if you don’t value sex with more than one person, you see no reason to value romantic relationships with more than one person.
If I had a choice between having sex and not having sex, period, I might choose not having sex. This is complicated because I have a condition that means I can’t actually have sex, yet, and although my boyfriend and I are attempting to work on this problem, our attempts involve very little pleasure for me. But I’m holding off judgement because maybe once this is dealt with, I will find sex and related activities more pleasurable. I consider this a separate problem from the fact that I’m not very touchy-feely in general.
Or have more experience and can actually differentiate. The one relationship I’ve been in that didn’t have a sexual component was emotionally draining for other reasons. As I get older and actually experience more variations, I may change my mind. I’m sure there’s a potentially valuable difference...but I’m reluctant to chase after polyamorous-but-non-sexual relationships just to recoup that difference.
If I had a choice between having sex and not having sex, period, I might choose not having sex. This is complicated because I have a condition that means I can’t actually have sex, yet, and although my boyfriend and I are attempting to work on this problem, our attempts involve very little pleasure for me. But I’m holding off judgement because maybe once this is dealt with, I will find sex and related activities more pleasurable. I consider this a separate problem from the fact that I’m not very touchy-feely in general.