I’ve assumed that part of charity is the feeling that you have more than you need,
I don’t know about that; it’s not like I’ve suddenly decided I have more than I need, and definitely not more than I want. I’m wary of that explanation, because that’s the cached thought that gets circulated around the subject, and it doesn’t actually seem to do anything more than be a stop sign for thinking.
Of course, it could simply be that before, I felt like there wasn’t really any chance that I could get what I want, and give things away. That sounds like a slightly more accurate description.
The thing that makes me question this reasoning, though, is that what I changed didn’t have anything to do with charity or how much I “had” in any explicit way whatsoever. It was simply giving up a pattern of helpless thinking, along the lines of being doomed no matter what I do.
I could just as easily argue that, well, if I’m doomed, then I should give to other people who aren’t. But it apparently didn’t work that way. So, I feel more confident saying that I really have no idea what the hell is going on in this area, than simply acceding to one of the many memes that circulate about it. I would rather experiment on a bunch of people first and see if I can make them change in the same way, before I claim to actually know anything about the process.
The trap that most self-help falls into is that when somebody identifies the last critical node to change in their own process, they go straight to the man-with-hammer mode, propounding that one change as the Most Important Thing, when in fact it might merely be the first step for someone who still has problems at other nodes in the process.
I don’t know about that; it’s not like I’ve suddenly decided I have more than I need, and definitely not more than I want. I’m wary of that explanation, because that’s the cached thought that gets circulated around the subject, and it doesn’t actually seem to do anything more than be a stop sign for thinking.
Of course, it could simply be that before, I felt like there wasn’t really any chance that I could get what I want, and give things away. That sounds like a slightly more accurate description.
The thing that makes me question this reasoning, though, is that what I changed didn’t have anything to do with charity or how much I “had” in any explicit way whatsoever. It was simply giving up a pattern of helpless thinking, along the lines of being doomed no matter what I do.
I could just as easily argue that, well, if I’m doomed, then I should give to other people who aren’t. But it apparently didn’t work that way. So, I feel more confident saying that I really have no idea what the hell is going on in this area, than simply acceding to one of the many memes that circulate about it. I would rather experiment on a bunch of people first and see if I can make them change in the same way, before I claim to actually know anything about the process.
The trap that most self-help falls into is that when somebody identifies the last critical node to change in their own process, they go straight to the man-with-hammer mode, propounding that one change as the Most Important Thing, when in fact it might merely be the first step for someone who still has problems at other nodes in the process.