Having been in that kind of position, I found that it’s less of a big deal than you think it is. There aren’t too many practical effects of one’s girlfriend having other boyfriends, given the right mindset. The only unavoidable consequence is that the maximum amount of time said girlfriend can spend with one is less than it might otherwise be. And that makes new boyfriends about as dangerous as new hobbies; that is, not very.
There have also been times when I was the one with the preponderance of partners, and while that was totally sweet, it didn’t have much to do with the partner imbalance. Having more good partners is just… better, regardless. For me, at least.
The only unavoidable consequence is that the maximum amount of time said girlfriend can spend with one is less than it might otherwise be. And that makes new boyfriends about as dangerous as new hobbies; that is, not very.
It is a little crude but this analogy holds best when the ‘hobby’ is collecting and mastering the use of sex toys. Being the one to meet needs for sexual satisfaction is a desirable thing, not least among the reasons for this is that involves you having more sex.
There have also been times when I was the one with the preponderance of partners, and while that was totally sweet, it didn’t have much to do with the partner imbalance. Having more good partners is just… better, regardless. For me, at least.
You would find 5:3 just as good as 1:3? Wow. I cannot imagine that; my instincts must be quite different to yours.
Mmm, not quite. I prefer to avoid group relationships where each person is directly involved with each other person; I wouldn’t mind if such a situation arose purely out of circumstance, but I dislike it as a deliberately engineered dynamic.
For me, the difference between dating three girls who were only dating me and three girls who were each themselves dating two or three other people is quite small. If anything, I might prefer the latter: being entirely responsible for providing emotional and romantic support for three different people is not easy. Not to mention that those other relationships would probably make the girls I was dating happier, which is a very desirable end all by itself.
It is a little crude but this analogy holds best when the ‘hobby’ is collecting and mastering the use of sex toys.
I don’t know if you’ve ever dated a woman with a large toy collection, but I think it’s really more of a huge benefit than a disadvantage.
Assuming from your name that you are female or gender atypical do you mean 5males:3females or the reverse? (I cannot tell whether you went with mine:opposite or male:female.)
Having been in that kind of position, I found that it’s less of a big deal than you think it is. There aren’t too many practical effects of one’s girlfriend having other boyfriends, given the right mindset. The only unavoidable consequence is that the maximum amount of time said girlfriend can spend with one is less than it might otherwise be. And that makes new boyfriends about as dangerous as new hobbies; that is, not very.
There have also been times when I was the one with the preponderance of partners, and while that was totally sweet, it didn’t have much to do with the partner imbalance. Having more good partners is just… better, regardless. For me, at least.
It is a little crude but this analogy holds best when the ‘hobby’ is collecting and mastering the use of sex toys. Being the one to meet needs for sexual satisfaction is a desirable thing, not least among the reasons for this is that involves you having more sex.
You would find 5:3 just as good as 1:3? Wow. I cannot imagine that; my instincts must be quite different to yours.
Mmm, not quite. I prefer to avoid group relationships where each person is directly involved with each other person; I wouldn’t mind if such a situation arose purely out of circumstance, but I dislike it as a deliberately engineered dynamic.
For me, the difference between dating three girls who were only dating me and three girls who were each themselves dating two or three other people is quite small. If anything, I might prefer the latter: being entirely responsible for providing emotional and romantic support for three different people is not easy. Not to mention that those other relationships would probably make the girls I was dating happier, which is a very desirable end all by itself.
I don’t know if you’ve ever dated a woman with a large toy collection, but I think it’s really more of a huge benefit than a disadvantage.
5:3 would be far more enjoyable in my experience from polyamoric relationships.
Assuming from your name that you are female or gender atypical do you mean 5males:3females or the reverse? (I cannot tell whether you went with mine:opposite or male:female.)
Don’t really care for the genders of partners. So any gender mix really. Female + bisexual with mostly female partners at the moment.
Lucky sod. :P
From context, it looks like you were using the notation (# of partners that my partner has):(# partners that I have).
What are your instincts? (Also, shouldn’t we write it x:y:z:3, since the 3 partners will each have different numbers of partners?)