It was only in retrospect after a lot of social learning that I became aware of all the times in my past that I easily could have been having sex, but wasn’t because I didn’t recognize the cues I was supposed to be picking up.
Was sex your goal at the time? How much time did you spend with the person(s) in question? Enough for it to be considered a long-term romantic relationship?
Sex Is Not the Goal. There is no goal. There is only the process: be who you are, and engage with what you encounter on that road.
described my outlook, and still does. I would have been happy to be having sex though.
And it varied; there are simply a number of people, who I spent differing amounts, some quite a lot, of time with, who in retrospect were willing to have sex with me.
Having been in the position of needing good advice, I agree with HughRistik that the advice above is mostly pretty bad unless you’re the sort of person who doesn’t already need the advice.
It’s not for nothing that my post history is full of comments with edit marks next to them. But now if I correct this one, it’ll have a pointless comment box hanging off of it. See what you did?
It might have been clearer if I’d distinguished between advice that is bad because it suggests unwise courses of action, and advice that is bad because attempting to follow it is not a feasible way to modify your actions for the better. I think it’s bad advice of the sort that doesn’t provide enough information to be positive or negative.
Was sex your goal at the time? How much time did you spend with the person(s) in question? Enough for it to be considered a long-term romantic relationship?
No. This
described my outlook, and still does. I would have been happy to be having sex though.
And it varied; there are simply a number of people, who I spent differing amounts, some quite a lot, of time with, who in retrospect were willing to have sex with me.
Having been in the position of needing good advice, I agree with HughRistik that the advice above is mostly pretty bad unless you’re the sort of person who doesn’t already need the advice.
(Where ‘already’ probably fits better a few words earlier.)
It’s not for nothing that my post history is full of comments with edit marks next to them. But now if I correct this one, it’ll have a pointless comment box hanging off of it. See what you did?
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It might have been clearer if I’d distinguished between advice that is bad because it suggests unwise courses of action, and advice that is bad because attempting to follow it is not a feasible way to modify your actions for the better. I think it’s bad advice of the sort that doesn’t provide enough information to be positive or negative.