“I feel” are an amazing technique to deescalate conflicts and built rapport. You cannot disagree with my feelings! That’s quite powerful.
Too powerful. You can say anything, claim anything, under the guise of “feeling”, and shut down anyone who disagrees, because “muh FEELINGS!”
Every sentence beginning “I feel that” is false, because what follows those words is always a claim about how the world is, never a feeling.
The line between good and bad is thin. This technique can be and often is misused for manipulation. The white-hat use of this technique is to make the other person stop and think.
Current theme: default
Less Wrong (text)
Less Wrong (link)
Arrow keys: Next/previous image
Escape or click: Hide zoomed image
Space bar: Reset image size & position
Scroll to zoom in/out
(When zoomed in, drag to pan; double-click to close)
Keys shown in yellow (e.g., ]) are accesskeys, and require a browser-specific modifier key (or keys).
]
Keys shown in grey (e.g., ?) do not require any modifier keys.
?
Esc
h
f
a
m
v
c
r
q
t
u
o
,
.
/
s
n
e
;
Enter
[
\
k
i
l
=
-
0
′
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
→
↓
←
↑
Space
x
z
`
g
Too powerful. You can say anything, claim anything, under the guise of “feeling”, and shut down anyone who disagrees, because “muh FEELINGS!”
Every sentence beginning “I feel that” is false, because what follows those words is always a claim about how the world is, never a feeling.
The line between good and bad is thin. This technique can be and often is misused for manipulation. The white-hat use of this technique is to make the other person stop and think.