What worked for me in a related situaton was leveraging comparative advantage by:
1) Finding somebody who isn’t broken in the same specific way,
2) Providing them with something they considered valuable, so they’d have reason to continue engaging,
3) Conveying information to them sufficient to deduce my own needs,
4) Giving them permission to tell me what to do in some limited context related to the problem,
5) Evaluating ongoing results vs. costs (not past results or sunk costs!) and deepening or terminating the relationship accordingly.
None of these steps is trivial; this is a serious project which will require both deep attention and extended effort. The process must be iterated many times before fully satisfactory results can reasonably be expected. It’s a very generalized algorithm which could encompass professional counseling, romance, or any number of other things.
Given that you’re abnormally intelligent, you probably need less information to deduce any given thing than most people would. The flip side of that is, other people need more information than you think they will, especially on subjects you’ve studied extensively (such as the inside of your own mind).
Given that you haven’t figured out the problem yourself yet, they probably also need more information than you currently have. You might be able to save yourself some trouble (not all of it, but every little bit counts) on research and communication in step #3 by aiming step #1 at people who’ve already studied the general class of problem in depth. Does RIT have a psych department? Make friends with some of the students there and they’ll probably give you a long list of bad guesses (each of which is a potential lead on the actual problem) for free.
Given that you’re trans, you probably also have an unusually good idea of what you want. Part of the difficulty of step #2 is that other people cannot be counted on to be fully aware of, let alone adequately explain, their own desires.
If your introspection is chewing itself bloody, maybe it just needs a metaphorical bite block. Does RIT have a group of people who get together for tabletop roleplaying games? Those are going to be big soon. http://thealexandrian.net/wordpress/24656/
The goal is to connect with people who will, for one reason or another, help you without being asked, such that the help will keep coming even while you are unable to ask. They don’t necessarily need to do it consciously, or in a way that makes any sense.
What worked for me in a related situaton was leveraging comparative advantage by:
1) Finding somebody who isn’t broken in the same specific way, 2) Providing them with something they considered valuable, so they’d have reason to continue engaging, 3) Conveying information to them sufficient to deduce my own needs, 4) Giving them permission to tell me what to do in some limited context related to the problem, 5) Evaluating ongoing results vs. costs (not past results or sunk costs!) and deepening or terminating the relationship accordingly.
None of these steps is trivial; this is a serious project which will require both deep attention and extended effort. The process must be iterated many times before fully satisfactory results can reasonably be expected. It’s a very generalized algorithm which could encompass professional counseling, romance, or any number of other things.
Given that you’re abnormally intelligent, you probably need less information to deduce any given thing than most people would. The flip side of that is, other people need more information than you think they will, especially on subjects you’ve studied extensively (such as the inside of your own mind).
Given that you haven’t figured out the problem yourself yet, they probably also need more information than you currently have. You might be able to save yourself some trouble (not all of it, but every little bit counts) on research and communication in step #3 by aiming step #1 at people who’ve already studied the general class of problem in depth. Does RIT have a psych department? Make friends with some of the students there and they’ll probably give you a long list of bad guesses (each of which is a potential lead on the actual problem) for free.
Given that you’re trans, you probably also have an unusually good idea of what you want. Part of the difficulty of step #2 is that other people cannot be counted on to be fully aware of, let alone adequately explain, their own desires.
If your introspection is chewing itself bloody, maybe it just needs a metaphorical bite block. Does RIT have a group of people who get together for tabletop roleplaying games? Those are going to be big soon. http://thealexandrian.net/wordpress/24656/
The goal is to connect with people who will, for one reason or another, help you without being asked, such that the help will keep coming even while you are unable to ask. They don’t necessarily need to do it consciously, or in a way that makes any sense.
What exactly do you mean by “writing?”