I find that sort of mentality to be amazingly depressing. If the world were like that, why get out of the bed in the morning?
Because I can’t cook bacon from in bed. Bacon is delicious!
There is no rule “If I understand something about the world that differs from a simple ideology then I must make myself sad”. So I don’t do that.
What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn’t make it worse. Not being open about it doesn’t make it go away. And because it’s true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn’t there to be lived. People can stand what is true,
for they are already enduring it.
As a matter of fact, that’s wrong when it comes to knowledge about humans; your expectations about a human (or rather, the signalling thereof) will change how said human behaves. Your beliefs (or rather, others’ perception thereof) change reality. If you expect someone to be good, they may well feel compelled to meet that expectation. If you expect people to respect you and find you atractive, all alse being equal, they will be more likely to find you respectable and attractive.
And if you expect people to be selfish assholes whose kindness is nothing more than a complex deception of themselves and each other, and they pick up on that, you’re more likely to get a treatment that fits that description.
Because I can’t cook bacon from in bed. Bacon is delicious!
There is no rule “If I understand something about the world that differs from a simple ideology then I must make myself sad”. So I don’t do that.
As a matter of fact, that’s wrong when it comes to knowledge about humans; your expectations about a human (or rather, the signalling thereof) will change how said human behaves. Your beliefs (or rather, others’ perception thereof) change reality. If you expect someone to be good, they may well feel compelled to meet that expectation. If you expect people to respect you and find you atractive, all alse being equal, they will be more likely to find you respectable and attractive.
And if you expect people to be selfish assholes whose kindness is nothing more than a complex deception of themselves and each other, and they pick up on that, you’re more likely to get a treatment that fits that description.