To the extent that you’re a slave to duty, it’s because you choose to be one.
… This sentence confuses me. Does the expression “I don’t know any other way to live” sound familiar to you?
People are quite predictable. In fact, you probably already know the predictive models, but are choosing instead to use your normative models to predict the world, or just as bad and much the same, modeling other people as if they have the same motivations that you do.
I’ve tried that. It just gets me depressed, and doesn’t improve my predictive abilities at all; rather than make wrong predictions, I find myself unable to make any predictions.
I haven’t delved much into the PUA literature, but my impression is that it focuses more on acquiring and controlling women than enjoying them once you have them. I don’t think that’s pragmatism, I think it’s missing the point.
It’s for this kind of insight that I frequent this community. Well-said. I knew something was bugging me. In trope terms, tt’s basically like wanting to take over the world, and not knowing what to do with it once you actually do win.
Would it really be so horrible if women are not what you think they “should” be? Would they be so horrible? A lot of things are not what you think women should be. Is a chair horrible for not being your ideal woman? A car? A spoon? You find uses for all of them, don’t you?
I can’t follow your chain of reasoning… It’s not a matter of them being women, that’s secondary to my needs. I wouldn’t mind a guy if being together with that person helped me fulfil my values (which don’t include “your romantic partner has to be of the opposite sex”).
The world is a wonderful place, and unwomen are among the most wonderful things in it. The world is a wonderful place, once you decide to live in it, instead of bemoaning that it isn’t what you think it should be.
How can the world be wonderful if it isn’t what I think it ought to be? The only way around that is to redefine my understanding of what it ought to be.
Otherwise, thank you for your post, this is being very interesting for me.
Does the expression “I don’t know any other way to live” sound familiar to you?
Should it? If this is an allusion, it’s going right past me.
I can’t follow your chain of reasoning…
I wasn’t trying to get at your sexual orientation with “unwomen”. That was meant to refer to “women who are unlike your ideal of what a woman and partner should be”. I think unwomen can be perfectly wonderful, and in fact, more wonderful than your ideal women. And even if they weren’t, unwomen have the merit of actually existing.
It’s basically like wanting to take over the world, and not knowing what to do with it once you actually do win.
That’s half of it. There was something additional that I was trying to get at. They have a whiff of incompetent egoists about them. They seem to look for powers against and over women, instead of powers for what they want with women. It’s just a game they’re playing against women, and they “win” when they get control. But as you say, they don’t give a lot of thought to what to do with a woman once they have control.
How can the world be wonderful if it isn’t what I think it ought to be?
That one really makes laugh. I mean that in a friendly way. You have an ideal in your mind that doesn’t correspond to the world, so you conclude that the world isn’t wonderful. You’ve set yourself a very tough standard for you being happy with the world. Your oughts don’t seem very conducive to your happiness. Why don’t you set them aside for a second, look at the world, and see what it has going for it in an unought way?
The only way around that is to redefine my understanding of what it ought to be.
There are other ways. For my part, I don’t think that the world has a duty to be anything, and it sure as hell doesn’t have a duty to correspond to my moral preferences.
I mean whether you’re familiar with the feeling, the state-of-mind that would generate such a phrase, not the phrase itself.
I thought you didn’t mean my sexual orientation, I just wished to point out that “being a woman” was far less important than “being a sapient being with whom I can satisfy my values”. I honestly don’t care if it’s a woman, a man, a robot, an alien, or an uplifted banana (well, unless they’re very unpleasant in to the senses).
I also contest the notion that my “ideal” women don’t exist. I happen to know at least three such women, possibly seven (eleven people if I count the males), they just happened to be taken or live very, very far away from me at the moment, or unable or unwilling to be in a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex, chaste though it may be.
It’s just a game they’re playing against women, and they “win” when they get control.
That’s the Dark Side of the Arts you’re describing. Non LW could also be under the impression that being a “rationalist” is about winning arguments and uplifting oneself by telling other people how stupid they are. They’d be mistaken. I hope. Doesn’t stop some posters here to act like insufferable smug pricks, including our boss here (the fact that that piece is funny, for a certain value of funny, is beside the point XD).
Why don’t you set them aside for a second, look at the world, and see what it has going for it in an unought way?
Oh, but I do that all the time. I’m not too unhappy with the material world, as such. It’s people that confuse me, including myself. What I approve of, what I want, and what I like, don’t correlate very well, and it creates a lot of conflict and suffering, and I don’t know how to deal with that.
… This sentence confuses me. Does the expression “I don’t know any other way to live” sound familiar to you?
I’ve tried that. It just gets me depressed, and doesn’t improve my predictive abilities at all; rather than make wrong predictions, I find myself unable to make any predictions.
It’s for this kind of insight that I frequent this community. Well-said. I knew something was bugging me. In trope terms, tt’s basically like wanting to take over the world, and not knowing what to do with it once you actually do win.
I can’t follow your chain of reasoning… It’s not a matter of them being women, that’s secondary to my needs. I wouldn’t mind a guy if being together with that person helped me fulfil my values (which don’t include “your romantic partner has to be of the opposite sex”).
How can the world be wonderful if it isn’t what I think it ought to be? The only way around that is to redefine my understanding of what it ought to be.
Otherwise, thank you for your post, this is being very interesting for me.
Should it? If this is an allusion, it’s going right past me.
I wasn’t trying to get at your sexual orientation with “unwomen”. That was meant to refer to “women who are unlike your ideal of what a woman and partner should be”. I think unwomen can be perfectly wonderful, and in fact, more wonderful than your ideal women. And even if they weren’t, unwomen have the merit of actually existing.
That’s half of it. There was something additional that I was trying to get at. They have a whiff of incompetent egoists about them. They seem to look for powers against and over women, instead of powers for what they want with women. It’s just a game they’re playing against women, and they “win” when they get control. But as you say, they don’t give a lot of thought to what to do with a woman once they have control.
That one really makes laugh. I mean that in a friendly way. You have an ideal in your mind that doesn’t correspond to the world, so you conclude that the world isn’t wonderful. You’ve set yourself a very tough standard for you being happy with the world. Your oughts don’t seem very conducive to your happiness. Why don’t you set them aside for a second, look at the world, and see what it has going for it in an unought way?
There are other ways. For my part, I don’t think that the world has a duty to be anything, and it sure as hell doesn’t have a duty to correspond to my moral preferences.
I mean whether you’re familiar with the feeling, the state-of-mind that would generate such a phrase, not the phrase itself.
I thought you didn’t mean my sexual orientation, I just wished to point out that “being a woman” was far less important than “being a sapient being with whom I can satisfy my values”. I honestly don’t care if it’s a woman, a man, a robot, an alien, or an uplifted banana (well, unless they’re very unpleasant in to the senses).
I also contest the notion that my “ideal” women don’t exist. I happen to know at least three such women, possibly seven (eleven people if I count the males), they just happened to be taken or live very, very far away from me at the moment, or unable or unwilling to be in a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex, chaste though it may be.
That’s the Dark Side of the Arts you’re describing. Non LW could also be under the impression that being a “rationalist” is about winning arguments and uplifting oneself by telling other people how stupid they are. They’d be mistaken. I hope. Doesn’t stop some posters here to act like insufferable smug pricks, including our boss here (the fact that that piece is funny, for a certain value of funny, is beside the point XD).
Oh, but I do that all the time. I’m not too unhappy with the material world, as such. It’s people that confuse me, including myself. What I approve of, what I want, and what I like, don’t correlate very well, and it creates a lot of conflict and suffering, and I don’t know how to deal with that.