Yes and yes. But my whole point is that I don’t want to say that he was an Evil Incurable Narcissist Demon! He was just a misguided kid with some questionable thought patterns. Like any of us!
Objectification is a cached thought and a weasel word away from anyone. So when someone gets offended about objectification, they’re not saying you’re an Evil Objectifying Narcissist Demon. It’s more like stepping on someone’s foot! It can happen to anyone! Accidentally! And you’d just say “oh, sorry about your foot,” and they’ll say “thanks for understanding.”
I don’t want to say that he was an Evil Incurable Narcissist Demon!
I was merely referring to the medical definition of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which your ex may or may not have had. And NPD people are notoriously hard to treat, precisely because not alieving that they are the problem is one of the main symptoms, and not just your garden-variety denial.
Yep, I understand and I actually think you may be right.
I was saying that using a word, any word, that you wouldn’t use to describe yourself is dangerous for thinking about stuff properly. That’s why I’m still waving this flag around! Sorry to be repetitive. I just don’t want people reading this and caching “Oh, I’m not one of those Nar-whatever people; that means I don’t objectify anyone.”
Tapping out now! Or I might feel compelled to continue flag-waving at a dead horse. =]
Sounds pretty narcissistic of him. And narcissism is basically incurable, so hopefully you moved on.
Yes and yes. But my whole point is that I don’t want to say that he was an Evil Incurable Narcissist Demon! He was just a misguided kid with some questionable thought patterns. Like any of us!
Objectification is a cached thought and a weasel word away from anyone. So when someone gets offended about objectification, they’re not saying you’re an Evil Objectifying Narcissist Demon. It’s more like stepping on someone’s foot! It can happen to anyone! Accidentally! And you’d just say “oh, sorry about your foot,” and they’ll say “thanks for understanding.”
I was merely referring to the medical definition of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which your ex may or may not have had. And NPD people are notoriously hard to treat, precisely because not alieving that they are the problem is one of the main symptoms, and not just your garden-variety denial.
Yep, I understand and I actually think you may be right.
I was saying that using a word, any word, that you wouldn’t use to describe yourself is dangerous for thinking about stuff properly. That’s why I’m still waving this flag around! Sorry to be repetitive. I just don’t want people reading this and caching “Oh, I’m not one of those Nar-whatever people; that means I don’t objectify anyone.”
Tapping out now! Or I might feel compelled to continue flag-waving at a dead horse. =]