Not at all, as this isn’t something specific to women. I think most people are ‘whiners’ who complain as though somebody owed them something. They do not. Not appreciation, not respect, not deference, not friendship, not the time of day. People who get ‘offended’ because someone didn’t say what THEY wanted, or because someone doesn’t care about their feelings just annoy me.
You should meet some new people. Perhaps move. In my experience, most people aren’t’ ‘whiners’, though that might be subjective.
As for the advice in TFA, it isn’t primarily about anyone owing anything. Rather, we’d like to have the best community we can, and it’s pretty well-established that we’re in favor of community norms that serve that end.
“What are you, a Randian?”
Certainly not. I’m just amoral and not very keen on some of the typical elements of our primate tribalisms. On top of that, I think most people’s social ‘problems’ are self-inflicted.
“In my experience, most people aren’t’ ‘whiners’, though that might be subjective.”
By ‘whiner’ I mean simply what I said above. It’s not someone else’s fault you get offended or otherwise react emotionally, that’s your deal. If you can do something about it, do so. If not—what of it? Obviously if the other person thought they had a reason to treat you differently they would, and if they don’t—well, there is no higher authority of values or norms.
“Rather, we’d like to have the best community we can, and it’s pretty well-established that we’re in favor of community norms that serve that end.”
I’d just rather not deal with people who suffer from the sort of self-inflicted ‘problems’ outlined above, and do not sympathise with their ‘plight’.
Not at all, as this isn’t something specific to women. I think most people are ‘whiners’ who complain as though somebody owed them something. They do not. Not appreciation, not respect, not deference, not friendship, not the time of day. People who get ‘offended’ because someone didn’t say what THEY wanted, or because someone doesn’t care about their feelings just annoy me.
What are you, a Randian?
You should meet some new people. Perhaps move. In my experience, most people aren’t’ ‘whiners’, though that might be subjective.
As for the advice in TFA, it isn’t primarily about anyone owing anything. Rather, we’d like to have the best community we can, and it’s pretty well-established that we’re in favor of community norms that serve that end.
“What are you, a Randian?” Certainly not. I’m just amoral and not very keen on some of the typical elements of our primate tribalisms. On top of that, I think most people’s social ‘problems’ are self-inflicted.
“In my experience, most people aren’t’ ‘whiners’, though that might be subjective.” By ‘whiner’ I mean simply what I said above. It’s not someone else’s fault you get offended or otherwise react emotionally, that’s your deal. If you can do something about it, do so. If not—what of it? Obviously if the other person thought they had a reason to treat you differently they would, and if they don’t—well, there is no higher authority of values or norms.
“Rather, we’d like to have the best community we can, and it’s pretty well-established that we’re in favor of community norms that serve that end.” I’d just rather not deal with people who suffer from the sort of self-inflicted ‘problems’ outlined above, and do not sympathise with their ‘plight’.