Hurt people expect to gain compassion, understanding and future not-hurtfulness from indicating concern that they are hurt. I don’t understand why you have the “or” there.
‘And’ would be unambiguously incorrect. ‘Or’ is correct, obviously doesn’t exclude the possibility that the gain could be of the kind your mentioned and also allows for the other possibilities.
Why do you say gain like it’s a bad thing? Don’t people expect to gain something from doing anything?
Why do you read gain like it’s a bad thing? I have no objection to gain. I’m not judging the expression of concern one way or another, merely commenting on which situations concern is expressed. It is worth making such a comment because the quoted prediction was misleadingly simple.
Okay, but if you’re saying gain isn’t a bad thing, then you’re not really saying anything. Maybe it would help if you name these other things that can be gained by expressing concern?
I’m [...] merely commenting on which situations concern is expressed
But you’re not, because you didn’t name any situations.
I can’t quite explain why it feels trivial to read gain as a good thing, but I have an example. Positive version:
When someone goes to a job interview, it’s probably because they want the job.
Or because they expect to gain from the interview.
It’s kind of confusing, right? It’s like “Err, yes. That’s what I said.” Compared to:
When someone starts a soup kitchen, it’s probably because they want to help starving people.
Or because they expect to gain from the soup kitchen.
‘And’ would be unambiguously incorrect. ‘Or’ is correct, obviously doesn’t exclude the possibility that the gain could be of the kind your mentioned and also allows for the other possibilities.
Why do you read gain like it’s a bad thing? I have no objection to gain. I’m not judging the expression of concern one way or another, merely commenting on which situations concern is expressed. It is worth making such a comment because the quoted prediction was misleadingly simple.
Okay, but if you’re saying gain isn’t a bad thing, then you’re not really saying anything. Maybe it would help if you name these other things that can be gained by expressing concern?
But you’re not, because you didn’t name any situations.
I can’t quite explain why it feels trivial to read gain as a good thing, but I have an example. Positive version:
It’s kind of confusing, right? It’s like “Err, yes. That’s what I said.” Compared to:
That’s why I read it as the second one.