I’m not categorically refusing to play; I’m just saying that after a particular move (flirty mock-rejection) on the part of the other player, there are no moves I can make with best-case outcomes good enough and reliable enough to outweigh the risks. Under those circumstances, it seems like the rational decision is to stop playing.
As I see it, a game you only need to win once for decades of marital bliss (plus offspring, financial stability, etc.), or lose once to land on the sex-offender registry, is not a game which should be played casually or with excessive frequency.
Well its not like you go straight from flirty mock-rejection to stalking or non-consensual sex. The worst you can do is spend more time with her after she has rejected you; and if her gentle (flirty) rejection doesn’t work she’s going to signal it more clearly.
If she’s just flirting, and I stay, I’m implicitly accepting the burden of deciphering any further ambiguous statements she might choose to make, for the duration of the relationship.
If she honestly wants nothing to do with me, but is speaking gently because she also doesn’t want to give offense, and I stay, that persistence might intimidate her into silence, which can lead to some very unpleasant outcomes indeed.
Humor, grain of truth, etc. Whoever told that joke the first time, I’m guessing, settled for a pretty girl who’d talk to them at all instead of thinking it through.
I’m not categorically refusing to play; I’m just saying that after a particular move (flirty mock-rejection) on the part of the other player, there are no moves I can make with best-case outcomes good enough and reliable enough to outweigh the risks. Under those circumstances, it seems like the rational decision is to stop playing.
As I see it, a game you only need to win once for decades of marital bliss (plus offspring, financial stability, etc.), or lose once to land on the sex-offender registry, is not a game which should be played casually or with excessive frequency.
Well its not like you go straight from flirty mock-rejection to stalking or non-consensual sex. The worst you can do is spend more time with her after she has rejected you; and if her gentle (flirty) rejection doesn’t work she’s going to signal it more clearly.
One way or another, it sets a bad precedent.
If she’s just flirting, and I stay, I’m implicitly accepting the burden of deciphering any further ambiguous statements she might choose to make, for the duration of the relationship.
If she honestly wants nothing to do with me, but is speaking gently because she also doesn’t want to give offense, and I stay, that persistence might intimidate her into silence, which can lead to some very unpleasant outcomes indeed.
This is where I insert a joke about married life. But I don’t want to be down voted anymore. So just think up the joke yourself.
Good jokes get voted up, not down.
Yes, I actually knew this. The sad part is I thought what I wrote was a good joke. But I was wrong.
Humor, grain of truth, etc. Whoever told that joke the first time, I’m guessing, settled for a pretty girl who’d talk to them at all instead of thinking it through.