one of the important elements of what I’m calling “orientation” is locating-the-thing-that-needs-admitting, in the space of all the possible things you might need to admit
True! Perhaps orientation should be that part in an orient-admit-grieve trifecta. It’s certainly the longer part, anyway.
I mostly do orientation by asking what it is I least want to admit, most wish were not true, and/or am most afraid is true. Then admitting those things are true or at least that they might be or that I’m afraid they are or wish they weren’t.
Also, per Curse of the Counterfactual, anything I think is a “should” is a good candidate for admitting the opposite, and the Work of Byron Katie (aka MBSR in current psych research lingo I think?) a good tool for doing so.
True! Perhaps orientation should be that part in an orient-admit-grieve trifecta. It’s certainly the longer part, anyway.
I mostly do orientation by asking what it is I least want to admit, most wish were not true, and/or am most afraid is true. Then admitting those things are true or at least that they might be or that I’m afraid they are or wish they weren’t.
Also, per Curse of the Counterfactual, anything I think is a “should” is a good candidate for admitting the opposite, and the Work of Byron Katie (aka MBSR in current psych research lingo I think?) a good tool for doing so.